Well it has been about 3 months now since my ex-wife divorced me. I know nothing about her life now, except that she maybe with the OM. I never see her(face to face), and never talk to her.<BR>I believe that this is one of those cases where it is completely over. and that she will just go on with her "new" life and not think a thing about it.<BR>I dont really expect this "lifting of the fog" from her. Cause maybe this is just what she wants. We were only together 6 yrs(2 of them married). And we have no kids, so maybe she just wants to make a clean break and just forget about the whole thing.<BR>But as I sit here, I wonder.... Is this really such a bad thing? I mean I am sad, but it is because of loneliness. When i think of being with her again it doesnt fill me with happiness. It fills me with anxiety.<BR>I just wish that I knew that things were not as great as she thought.<P>------------------<BR>Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

i probably am not the best one to answer your post, but i do know the grass is never greener. things only look better until you have both feet in. one will usually take all of their old baggage and unresolved issues right to the next person. <P>also, knowing that your ex is unhappy doesn't make you happier. it just makes you have more questions. more why's... just seek happiness for yourself and trust that, "All things work together for good, for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose"...<P>I need that advice myself...<P>God bless...<P>Kim...<P><BR>

You are right this isn't so bad after all, and when I think of my situation, wish by the way is just like yours, I sometimes wonder why I wanted her back so much why I was so willing to work on the marriage . she never seemed to give a hoot, she went on with her life moved in with other man. I know she will never admit she made a mistake or left me for OM she still denies that to family, I haven't had contact with her at all, but I have heard that she does seem to regret what she has done and seems to realize it was a mistake, but she has to prove she did the right thing and try to make her new life work, well I find comfort in praying for her and wishing her the best in life, I don't think at this point I could ever consider reconcile with this woman after all she did, I see clear now that I accepted the way she was, I thought all woman were like her, well I have met a few and they are nothing like her belive me, there are alot of good woman out there who really care and are honest.<P>