The longer I live with my parents the more I think my husband was right. About dysfunction.<P><BR>I had a crazy family life as a child constant fighting and such and had many abusive relationships there after and fought back just as hard as they did. Well when I met the Hubby I decided I was not going to fight like that, I needed to get away from those relationships. So instead of fighting like I used to I would cry....so there is where my arguments that I did not think we were having come into play. He said we always argued and I just did not see it because I was so used to it. Maybe he was right....the longer I am back in this crazy life with my parents the more I agree.<P><BR>When we had arguments they were NEVER over anything important...but, they ended up being blown out of proportion. Most of the time I never thought we were arguing but always knew something was wrong that he was upset about something...although sometimes it was my own insecurites. I would keep asking what was wrong until finally he would admit to what was bothering him and by then he was angry...I wish he would have just told me earlier rather than later so he did not keep it bottled up inside. Maybe I should have left well enough alone and not asked. I do not know I guess I am still searching for answers of why.<P>I just wish I could change time and turn back the clocks...but, with him kicking me out of his home pregnant and with my other son...and then the back and forths I know he does not want to start over....I don't know how to be strong when I still love him. We were both at fault but, I guess I will see how he reacts in about three weeks when this baby is born....if he cares to come here two hours away at my parents house. Which will not be easy on either of us, who knows.<P>Thanks for listening.<P>K

I saw that you didn't receive a response yet and wanted you to know that I've read your post. I don't have a clear picture of what's going on with your situation, other than seeing monumental opportunities for improvement! The best suggestion I have is for you to read the materials here about Plan A. You will be a better person if you can Plan A, and I daresay it works on parents, coworkers, cashiers, as well as spouses. Plan A doesn't seem to be enough to save my marriage, but a year of working on myself is definitely starting (key word starting) to show. It can help you too, regardless of what direction your future takes.

movingahead -I just wanted to say that I understand. I came from a similar background. It's hard to see when your "in trouble" when you've been used to so much fighting in your primary family. My prayers are with you. <P> God Bless you and your new baby!

Thank You both for your responses. I am looking at a lot of the plans trying to figure things out. I just wish it was easier...I am constantly driving myself crazy about what went wrong and where......I married someone who can not handle even an ounce of stress and with the way I grew up I can handle so much more.<P>Just trying to figure it all out. But, when this baby is born after I get through the hurdles of seeing him again I will be alright...life will move forward so much easier and rather than just one bundle of joy to live for I will have two.<P>Thanks again...<P>K