Hey Nina<P>I just a read a thread from NWTCO. I was a little taken a back by your statement about all while SA woman. I hardly think that statement is fair. Wow if I had lived that life...<P>I don't have a maid, and I go to work. I know what cleaning is about and I do intend to get a maid once a week, but that doesn't mean I haven't worked to get where I am today. My H and I started with a joint income of R2000 gross! U c as soon as money started coming in things have fallen apart. Ironic isn't it.<P>I don't want to fight, just wanted to tell you that all SA woman are not 'privileged' as you will want to call it. I studied through correspondance for my diploma while being married and working full time. So before you leave our dear country don't take biased opinions back to Aus please.<P>I wish you all the luck and good fortune for the future. Have a safe trip. Remember some days are worse than others. Some are better. But that you will get through this.<P>Pantha

I am sorry to have offended you, I knew it may cause a reaction when I said it....yes I know a lot of women here work very hard and some don't have maids. But you must know the ones who don't have maids are few. (I know of only one in my friendship group of about 100 ladies.)<P>If you look at the post again, I didn't say all, I said most (?) or some women. I was careful not to say all because I know that's not the truth.<P>Please forgive, I don't want to offend. <P>Did you go see the movie the other weekend?<P>Sorry again,<P>Nina <P>

Hey Nina<P>Its ok. I just didn't want you to judge all SA women because of you H's OW. It is far easier than to actually hate the one we love?! I know I put all my negative feelings onto the OW because I didn't want to hate my H.<P>Yeah I went to see movie, it was funny but a little sad for me at the end. Thanx for asking.<P>My company is sending me on seminar next week at Sun City, I cannot wait. How nice it will be to get away for while. The people at my work are really supportive so that is something hey.<P>How is the packing going? You must be so exhausted mentally and physically. <P>Take care<BR>Pantha

Hi Pantha,<P>So glad you're still talking to me . I really don't like to offend.<P>I will NOT be basing my opinions of all SA's on that *****, I have met some great people here. Just for the record, we knew her all this year, and I didn't like her before the A either. Anyway, I have loved being here and I am sad that I didn't get to stay the whole year.<P>I have sorted all the house stuff, and now I just have to pack the cases. I'm a whirlwind? No, there's just not much I want shipped over.<P>I see you have another post now, too. I will write you a reply soon. Take care!