My H left a year ago July - just couldn't take it any more. didn't love me anymore. Had been married 7 years, one child. H met OW in November. Things were terrible, he moved in with her. But they finally broke up in Aug. this year. I am very relieved, even if we can't reconcile. <P>My H has said and still says he doesn't want to try to work things out. He's not interested at all, just wants it over. He stands by this whenever I ask, but he does spend a little time with me and our son.<P>It has been very painful and we've been able to agree on a settlement. I don't want to finalize the divorec, but it seems so hopeless. He seems so certain. Should I just let him go and walk away or keep trying? <P>I think God wants me to keep trying, but maybe I'm fooling myself. My H's free will is very strong. How do I know when I've done everything that I can? Please help. It's been such a long battle. Thanks so much!

Welcome <B>Maysville</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>While you're evaluating your situation...<BR>...Plan A.<P>Patience on movement to Plan B...<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>

I knew I had to move on when I realized, I was only hurting myself by hanging on. I struggled with trying to have closure.<BR>I realized I could not stay connected to someone who didn't want me and I was only hurting myself and I had to stop. You will know when to let go, as far as divorce, let him go get it, why should you hurry?<BR>

Maysville,<P>Same boat here. Separated 15 months 9/15/01. Mine is with girlfriend now, but things are not good for them. He still does not want to get back together either and like you I feel God does not want me to let go yet. My advice? I have no advice. That is why I am here. Keep your chin up and lean on God. He will see you through no matter what the outcome is. Keep reading and posting here. Lots of good advice from everyone. They have been through everything here. God Bless you!!<P>Tina