Hi I too am in your situation. I am a lurker but I had to reply to you after reading your posts. My H of 9 years left me for freedom/OW. I was almost 3 months pregnant at the time and lost my job 2 days before he left. It has been four months now and no sign of him wanting to work on our marriage. I too feel abandonded, depressed, etc. If you would like me to give you may e-mail I would love to talk with you. I think we could really give each other moral support. Hang in there. Our little ones need us to be strong.

We all need that support, sorry to hear what he did to you, it just goes to prove to me how thick the fog is and how selfish of an act this was to leave you pg and with out work. The OM my exw left with left his wife with no support and 2 broken legs and no car. I believe that they will get there in the end. You are stronger than you think and you will survive.

Thanks Jabber for your comforting words. I try to think positively and am working on myself to become a better person. I have had a rough 2 years due to 2 deaths in the family and a rejection of my Grandmother. I don't know if I can take much more. I think God sent me this baby to bring some joy to my life. I am thinking of her and being strong for the most part but am so depressed too- ya know the rollercoaster!!! At least I have been able to let go of most of my anger......<P><BR>I don't know how people can be so cruel. I guess it is a fog. Maybe we should introduce our spouses. It sounds like they would get along very well. LOL Take care.

Thank You sweet pea for your response. Also, jabber thank you for your encouraging words. Sometimes it is very hard to look at the bright side of the situation and I do know that there is one. Just getting there is hard sometimes. I am not the most patient person in the world and I want to see this sweet little angel NOW! LOL<P>I already have one child from an earlier relationship in college and he has never come around instead he has dissappeared. So I know I can make it on my own with God and my Children leading the way. I just wish this time had been different. I get so angry since he knew I had been in this situation before! But, being angry to hide my hurt is not working either. <P>It is sad how some people are so greedy....looking out for themselves only. I am always terrified he is going to find me on-line on one of these boards or something but, then again if I really think about it he would not ask for help and he sure would not try to offer words of encouragement to others so he would just be a lurker only and would probably never respond.<P>Greed is an awful thing....<P>Thank You again <P>also sweetpea my addy is twoboysandme2001@hotmail.com feel free to use it any time. I do like to talk here too for the support it may give to someone else...but, when it gets real personal i would rather not leave that out in the open in the event he is lurking.<P>Take care and God Bless this world we live in<P>K<P>How come it seems that the only person that can help you to stop crying is the person who made you cry in the first place?<P>Author unknown