I am new at this site and I am glad to have found it. I've read a few topics and they are helping me feel that I am not alone with this. <BR>I just found out that my H has been having affairs for the last 2 years...usually with prostitutes when he is away on business. He went on a business trip to Thailand APril-June of this year. He came back and I felt something was wrong. I questioned him. He told me that he got a prostitute pregnant. Now..the bad thing is he thinks he has some type of feeling for this person. I can't believe it! We've been married for 12 yrs and we have 3 kids...10, 8 and 5. He is considering of ending our marriage for this person! I just don't understand! We are in counseling...for me to try to make our marriage works and for him, to find why he is feeling this way. He doesn't know what he wants. He knows he has a lot to lose but somehow this person has some hold on him. I will gladly want your opinions and support as I can't find it anywhere around me right now...I feel I'm crazy for holding on and keeping our family together. But, I just don't know what else to do.

I am not that good with advice and me never being in that situation I do not know exactly what to say. I am sorry that you had to come here but, glad that you did find this place.<P>Someone will post a welcome for you with some great links on them...Atleast you made it here before everything is helpless. I was refered here by another board I am on a lot and these men said only if they had found this place before they would have probably been able to save their marriages.<P>Stay here and you will get a lot of good advice and help and learn a lot and make some good friends.<P>I belive that you are doing the right thing for everyone involved by going through counseling...that is the best start. You also have to do what is best for you and your children and no matter what anyone says you can only do what you need to do no matter what someone else thinks about your situation.<P>You take care of yourself and I wish I could help you some more...<P>K

Thank you K...this site is giving me the support I need without condemning me that what I am doing is stupid or something. I can't relate any of this to any friends here because they haven't experienced this. It would be easy for them to say this and that without really knowing how it feels.<BR>Thank you...I feel better today since coming to this site. The last couple of days I have been consumed with anger at my H. I really can't blame him for not knowing what to do...he knows he has inner issues he needs to fix before he can make a decision. He came from a broken home and no one has taught him the value of family...I on the other hand is opposite...my parents taught us that family is more important than money or material things.<BR>Again, I appreciate your support.