almost 3 months ago he started acting very distant. we had talked about starting a family in sept. we've been married almost 4 years. Suddenly, he says he doesn't know if he wants to be married. he is not happy. HE syas he has a perfect wife, a great job, a beautiful home and plenty of money - yet he is unsatisfied. After a month he says he wants to sepearte. But won't let me leave and won't leave. Still says there are issues, but won't say what they are specifically. Says he loves me. always will. The past 3 months have been an emotional roller coaster. There are some days that I can not function - can not be myself. I get so confused. He says he can not decide which direction to choose - whether to work on the marriage and save it or to decide to divorce. I am devistated. I never saw this coming. Any advice. He won't go to counseling. Is it another woman. He says no. I have always trusted him without any hesitation. But now, I don't know. Please, if anyone has any suggestions or advice. Thank you.

I heard these same things, she even said she had everthing she wanted in life and no reason to be so unhappy, she got on antidepressants they helped alot. She denied there being another man and wanting to leave me. when she finally left with out warning and went to OM, she said meds woke her up and she saw the truth about me and how horrible I was and she didn't lve me anymore. Is he having an internet affair perhaps??<P>