Hi Jacky,<P>welcome home.<P>I haven't been on line for a week due to an incredible work schedule, but I did wonder (& worry) about you and how you were doing. <P>I'm glad you're finally here, and safe. And yes, your Mum will do and say all those things out of love for you, and anger that this has happened. But just remember, no matter how hard she wants to understand this, she doesn't.... (well, I hope she doesn't)<BR>My mum was exactly the same, bless her little cotton socks. She married her first bf and is still devoted to him 38 years later!!!! Yep, she 'understands' all right!!!<P>Talking about Croydon, we had friends in Bayswater that we used to visit all the time. We lived in Romsey, near Mt Macedon so it was one side of Melbourne to the other. We had some great times in the Dandenongs with them, and then some great times over our side of town!!!<P>I must admit that reading what you wrote about the surreal journey to the airport brought tears to my eyes. I went through exactly the same thing when my ex-h drove us to Melb airport when I left. I just kept saying to him that none of this felt right. It just wasn't right. I can remember so clearly packing up the house again (only 8 weeks after moving from Sydney) and being so angry that I was spending my life packing. We had 3 interstate moves in 2 years!!!!!! Not as bad as you tho, you poor thing.<P>We have some very strange similarities you and I. I could only stand the strain and stress for 8 weeks once I found out about his affair, isn't that the same for you? I'm sure I read that somewhere. One huge difference is how your in-laws have treated you. Mine have never known the truth, he never admitted the truth, so consequently they think I packed up the children and left him for no apparent reason and haven't spoken to me since. I did try and tell my fil that he was having an affair, but he said he had asked my h and my h had sworn black and blue that he wasn't!!!!! Oh well, I will get over it one day.....<P>Anyway, I'm so glad your'e home with your loved ones, and that the children are ok. My email if you would like to talk some more is bonnet2@bigpond.com. If you would like my ph no I'll happily give it to you. If not, I understand that too.<P>take care of you and your babies<P>love and hugs<P>Jo

Hi Bonnet,<P>Good of you to write to me! It's nice having a feelow Aussie to chat with even tho you're in QLD.<P>We do have some similarities, but this is his 2nd A in 8 months, so I guess my tolerance level was a bit low. The B****** hasn't even phoned us yet. Oh what a big man.<P>My inlaws don't know the whole story, just that he left me. I told him I was going to tell them, but I think my dad beat me to it. I wasn't going to tell them really, just wanted to put the wind up him...what difference would it make.<P>My youngest turns 3 next week and MIL wants to bring the whole family here for a celebration, but I just can't face them all en masse. So I think I will suggest that they take the kids out to lunch or something. I think that would be better. I would rather see all of them one by one, at least at first. What do you think?<P>I've made a note of your email address, and I'm going to get my own account set up soon. I'll write to you when that happens.<P>Yeah that journey to the airport was tough. I remember he said something funny to the kids, and I laughed...in the middle of it I'm thinking, how can I do that...this isn't funny!!!<P>Anyway, I'm struggling with this. I have no freedom here, no car etc. I will have to get my act together soon or I will go mad.<P>Thanks again!<P>Jacky