Guys,<BR>Wife just called and asked for some favors. I happily agreed because she still see our family doc up here where I live and she seems so down. I told her I know it is tough right now, but I said just let me know how I can help you out. I know you are under alot of pressure, etc and I dont want to cause you any more. She asked me to take son to dr. to have warts removed, pickup her prescription over here and take kids this weekend. I agreed. She is going to come over Saturday and help pack up our stuff for storage at my folks house (i will be there for two months and then will rent a home here). I think I am making some headway. Are there some things (boundaries) I should setup and not cross? What about when she helps pack? I am going to try and make it easy and not talk about the relationship. Just try and have some fun with her and the kids. Any ideas on things I should really try while we pack and move all day Saturday? Should I tell her about the house I am looking at renting. You know happy stuff.<BR>Any advice on what and what not to do during this time?

Emotional needs... <BR>identify hers<BR>try to make deposits into her emotional needs account<P>Love busters...<BR>identify what you do that irritates her and avoid them<P>Conversation...<BR>what does SHE like to discuss<BR>what things did you like to do together... common interests<P><BR>Basically use the opportunity to meet her ENs... fill her up, make her believe that you are the one she wants. You will feel like a doormat for now, Steve Harley even says this... but it's called... Plan A<P>Read up on it... get real familiar with the principles again! All the best!<P>------------------<BR><I>"You will deceive yourself into believing that if people, circumstances, and events had been different, your pain would not exist...Your pain is the concrete way in which you participate in the pain of humanity."</I> <BR>~ Henri Nouwen ~