How 'bout you guys?<P>My separated W called me and woke me on the bad morning - and I was stunned by what she told me - that was after the first hit. I went and turned on the TV - when I saw the second hit, I got in my car and went to her. We stayed together all day and night. I needed her. I don't know if she needed me. We almost did someting - though I didn't want to take advantage of the situation. Anyway, you forget about a lot of petty little things in at time like this. I hope we all can keep that sence of "glad to be alive" - and glad that our loved (or maybe, or used-to-be loved) ones are alive too.<P>Just the night before we had been arguing about the phone bill ('till about 1am on the phone, since I found out after 11pm, and was mad at her). Calling her OM in europe, she spent $85 in two days on phone cards. Today I got the bill for the rest of the month (for calls before I put the international block on her line) and it was $800 - and I didn't even say anything to her about it. I will - just not now. I don't think I'm going to pay it, and she has no money except of her own.<P>We really did feel closer togther. At one point she said "I'm thinking about confessing everything", but she didn't go any further - and I don't expect any new confessions now.<P>-AD

Some how in the wake of a tradgedy are problems seem so small don't they, I hope this is a begining of something good for you.<P>

No, he didn't tell me of his renewed undying love, but he DID acknowledge the SMS I sent him that day, telling him that the tragedy had made me think about him, and to keep safe. He rarely acknowledges any of my impromptu communications. Also we talked briefly about it and I said something about how it makes you appreciate your life, and he said in a contemplative tone "Yes, it does, doesn't it?" But of course THAT could be taken either way.<P>So glad for you, though!

I sure hope something good can come out of this tragedy. I wish you guys the best.<BR>I didnt have that experience though. It helped me realize my marriage is over and there is no hope for us. Of all the people running thru my head to call or be with it was much later in the day when I even wondered where he was or if he had heard the news.

Jabber, Nina Too, what_do_i_do,<P>Thanks for replying on my poor little thread. <P>I'm surprised really, that more people haven't seen this effect. For me, I just wanted to be with her - it was that simple - though I thought that she might want some company too. Maybe it's only because I'm out of work right now - and she's a SAHM - and we had nothing else to do. I really do care about her more than anyone on earth - except maybe our baby daughter - who was there too.<P>Today, she told me that she hadn't "done anything bad" in the last 3 days. I don't expect that to last, but at least it's something.<P>-AD<BR>