I'm 36 yrs old and at this point in my life, with me working 2 jobs, keeping up a house and spending time with my teenagers, I have decided to not get involved in a relationship. It is too complicated and I cannot give a 100% of myself to someone else and that is not fair to either one of us. I have a very good friend I met after my divorce and have known him for about 2 years now.<P> <BR>I asked him to be a special friend to me, someone I can go to the movies with, go to the baseball game with, drink a beer with, play tennis and hang out ---- and whenever I want to be touched kissed, held and basically to just have sex with whenever I want. He is extremely busy with his kids, his job and working on his race car. This may not be healthy for me in the long run, but we both know where we stand and I'm O.K. with that and so is he. It has been going on for 7 months now. People ask me how can I not have feelings and do this. I have some feelings for him, but my priorities are so strong right now, I will not let anything get in the way. He doesn't care if I date (even though I could care less about dating). I don't care if he dates, but I know he doesn't because his roommate told me. I didn't ask his roommate this. One night his roommate just starting asking me questions and I guess was just feeling me out. I think he was a little concerned about both of us because he told me my friend didn't show much emotion and he didn't think he knew how. I told him I didn't expect anything from this arrangement and I was perfectly O.K. with the way it was. Anyone with suggestions, comments - negative or positive - my ears are open. My main concern is it healthy for me????

Hey Girl,<P>Just to let you know I got your email and have been planning on emailing you back today. <P>Well, as for the relationship, you are already in it so time will tell whether it is good or bad. My instinct says bad for you. I wonder how you guys will take it when one of you find that someone you or he wants to really be with and the other is then stuck alone again. Well I guess time will tell now.<P>Good luck and I will email you soon.<P>ANNA<P>

Hey Elliott, Does this guy have a friend? What a perfect arrangement. That is all I want now is a friend like that. <BR>Nothing to deep, just fun and yes, maybe sex. I remember a time when I thought I could spend the rest of my life without having sex. WRONG!!!!!!!!<P>So don't feel bad about your situation sounds perfect to me. When you are ready for something a little more seriouse you will know.<P>Jill