Well guys, I called her and asked her about me email concerning the possible other man. She did not respond.<BR>So I called to get the time for my sons soccer practice. I asked if she got the email and she said yes and she then said I will say it again, there is no one else. Little did she know, I had a name. I again, said, I am okay with it. I want you to be happy, I did some rotten things, and I just want to get on with life. She again said NO ONE. I then threw out a name. I said Who is xxxx xxxx? You could have heard a pin drop. Silence for about 10 seconds (I guess she was thinking of what to say). Then she says "It is some guy I met/know; it is nothing" I said, he is the one you were talking about from Charlotte (prior to our separation), again, I heard a pin drop. She then chimed in No that is not him (by the way it IS him). I told her hey its your life, I just want to move on and not be lied to. I am okay with it. As we got off the phone, she asked, "How did you get his name?" That told me all I wanted to know. I politely said "How or what I know is not relavent" I was polite, no anger, I was upbeat. We ended the converstation.<P>I am feeling good right now, suprisingly so. I still love her and understand why. I was horrible as a husband sometimes. Anyway, sound like the start of an affair? Probably EA. I will just keep on plan a'ing.

Rob,<P>I am standing up clapping for you!!!!!!!!!!!<P>You did the right thing. You let her know that you are not stupid but you didin't get angry. I bet she almost wet her pants.<P>Jill

Yay Rob!!!<P>You did good...that pin dropping says volumes. My H just didn't speak when I confronted him about OW2. I was like you, not nasty, just stated that I knew. Stood there looking at me for a while, then he denied it. Oh really???<P>Well, you knew anyway, huh?<P>Now you need to think about what's next.<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky<P>

Rob,<P>GOOD JOB!!! <P>ANNA<P>

RobC,<P>I think you are right on the money. The dead give away was the follow up question, "How did you get his name?". That is consistant with the reaction of a person trapped in a lie who is <B>trying to figure out both how and how much you know </B> before telling the next lie.<P>I think it is a good thing that you didn't show anger. It isn't easy being caught in a lie, even tougher having a EA or PA revealed. Promise you it isn't one of her better days.<P>Prayers and stuff,<P>Bumper<P>

Good For you, I am happy you had this oppurtunity, I never had it and never felt I could bring any closure to my relationship, because I didn't get a chance to have my say. It lets her know that you are not stupid even though she may treat you that way. <BR> I read that you made bad mistakes and were not always a good husband, that is unfortunate, but we all make them and don't always act the way we should, hind sight is 20/20 if you have admitted your short commings and stopped doing them and made ever good effort to make amends and have changed your ways, that is all you can do. Know one deserve's to be punished for ever or lied to or cheated on. Many people get divorced because they were not treated good but they don't cheat, this Affair is about her not you and her own selfishness, keep working on yourself and you will be the better person when the dust settle's take care of yourself and don't take her crap.<P>

Rob,<P>Did you get an email from me? I have lost my mind today. I typed one but didn't think I had finished. I got distracted and when I came back it was gone. So now I am wondering if I sent it or deleted it. Geeez. I do not have it together lately! Also, my mouse is doing weird things and clicking highlighting things when I am not touching it. Maybe the mouse did it. lol<P>Anna<BR>