Well, I went to an attorney on Tuesday and filed for divorce. I found out that the H has been lying to me and I think has been from day one.<P>His mother told me that he hasn't been living at her home for 2 weeks and doesn't know where he is. I contacted him at work on Tuesday to ask him if we were going to counseling. Everything was fine, he said he was coming back but was not ready just yet and that he wanted to go to counseling on Wednesday. When I asked him why he didn't tell me he wasn't living at his mothers he couldn't answer me and told me he was living with a guy from work. He told me he didn't have time to discuss these things over the phone and I told him he never has time for me but has the time for himself and his friends. I guess that got him mad so he said he wanted a divorce and was 100% sure. I told him that it was going to be months before I can save up money to get a lawyer. Little does he know I filed the same day he said he wanted one.<P>I called his mother and told her that the papers would be coming to her house since she does see him at bowling on Friday nights and to make sure he gets the papers. She told me that I did what I felt I had to do with filing for divorce because she said her son was making no efforts in wanting to make this marriage work. Next day I talked to her and she said that I made a hasty decision, that she thinks her son didn't really mean he wanted a divorce and only said that. I told her its too late and I'm going through with it. She wanted to know what I would do if he came to me begging that he would change and wants to make this marriage work and he doesn't want a divorce. I told her that he couldn't give me or our marriage a chance and never showed me that he could change or wanted to change so I will continue with the divorce. I told her he has lied to me so many times (she knows that) that I can't continue living with a liar and worrying myself sick if he did come back as to where he was, what he was doing or where he was going. I told her the marriage is over and nothing is changing my mind.<P>I need to get on with my life and be happy. Some people tell me that my H called my bluff and that I was wrong for rushing into a divorce. Other's say that I made the right choice. I feel I made the right choice because this is my life and I have to live it.

Wow, I remember making that decision how difficult. I feel really bad for you. Sometimes a person has to do what is best for you. At least you finally made a step and that must make you feel better. The divorce is long from over so don't panic yet. You just opened his eyes some.<P>Jill