My W told me last week that she filed, she is very cold to me she blames everything bad that happens in her life on me. I have a hard time dealing with this since my children are getting confused. My wife moved out the 1st week of aug. Now last week since seeing her lawyer she is trying to get back in the house!! I feel as though I have no rights my lawyer tells me to just sit back, but don't move out. Since then my wife started to stay over, but I think OM didn't like this so last wed. she asked me to leave when she has the kids. OUr arrangement was we would see the kids every other day. And they would sleep with me in our house. Now that she has a lawyer she is trying to take the children from me (3 -13, 8 and 6 yrs old). My oldest wants to stay with me. I don't know what to do

Hi there,<P>I don't know where you are from, but in Australia, the person who leaves the kids behind has problems getting custody. You hold on to the kids, and hold on to the house. Why the heck should you move? She is the one that wants all the changes....tell her to go. And tell her she is not taking the kids out of their home either. She has bobviously had some advice she is not sharing with you....she stands to lose a lot I bet!<P>Stand up for yourself, and DO NOT MOVE. <P>How did she get to move back in anyway?

Stay in your house and don't leave. If your oldest wants to stay with you then you are on your way. Do not "LEAVE". Understand that. Your wife sounds like mine. My children are 13- 10- 7 and I will get physical custody and share custody with her, but they will live with me. I do have a housekeeper that will help me. Can you do that? The first step is not to leave, not for a moment.<BR>Why did you let her in the house? This is very important. Speak to your attorney, but from what I understand she abandoned you and the kids. MOVE on that now.<BR>

Nina Too,Adamsol, <BR>Thanks for the reply, she left for about 5 weeks, she then spoke to a lawyer who must've told her to get back in. She wanted me to leave but I wouldn't she now has started to take the kids on her nights. We do every other day and the kids stayed with me at night. She takes the kids to her parents house even on school nites. I tried to explaing to her that I didn't think that was good to move the kids in the middle of the school week, but obviously she dosen't care. I have signed papers for custody I'm hoping for primary and physical. My attorney told me that I couldn't keep her out of the house until she filed for divource. He said I can then file some kind of "petition" to keep her from coming in?? I work during the day and she was coming over in the mornings and staying until I got home from work. I'm from US, Pa. to be exact.