Just a question for the oldtimers out there. I live in Colorado a no-fault state. WS is moving out next weekend and I have a feeling as soon as she is out that she will file for divorce. Does anyone know how this might be slowed down either through my actions or legally?????

Goodguy,<P>I don't live in your state but I do live in a n/f state. Some things that could slow it down here, is not agreeing on the split up of material items. Sometimes I've heard that could hold it up a long time. Possibly having the divorce hearing rescheduled. Also, in some states you can insist or even the state insist on 3 or so counseling sessions. You know too, anything you do to postpone this is going to infuriate her.<P>Goodguy, I may be wrong and we will soon find out, but I think she will not file for a divorce right away. Anyway, just a feeling that she has no clue what she wants and she will stall on the divorce. <P>Also, did you see my response on your "how do I tell her the o/m isn't going to move her out next week" post.<P>Take care.<P>ANNA<P><BR>

Hi Anna,<P>Yes I got your reply. Sorry I don't always aknowledge that I have read them usually you can take it as a compliment because it has probably answered my question. <P>Anyways, yeah you know I have a feeling she might not file right away either. She moves out next weekend and has told me she's going to take a very long road trip by herself. I was almost thrilled. She is SO confused right now and she has no problem showing it. She is going to go see her sister and mom which at the very least will take a week. She quit her job and her last day will be next friday. When she told me this I was so thrilled inside that I could barely take it. (The road trip that is) I don't know why but I know everyone is pulling on her in their direction and I have always thought a long time by herself is deserved and needed. You know it is incredibly lonely here without her but mainly because right now I know she is with that sob OM. I think it will even help me to know she will soon be alone in our old running grounds. <P>Whoops kind of got off on a tangent. Maybe I'm jumping the gun on the whole delaying this process but lately too many things have caught me unsuspecting and I wish I knew then what I know now.<P>As always anna its great to hear from you again. Thank you.<BR>

Goodguy,<P>Do you have yahoo. If you don't get a yahoo email, go yahoo's main page <A HREF="http://www.yahoo.com," TARGET=_blank>www.yahoo.com,</A> get your email account and then go back into their main page and click on games. When you can't sleep or you find yourself really lonely, play pool or one of the other games with someone on line. It is one more way to get your mind off things.<P>This is something I do often, when I find I have a sleepless night.<P>Take care.<BR>ANNA<P>

Thanks I do have a yahoo account I guess I just never looked at the games. THanks. Maybe I'll see you there.

Goodguy,<P>Well the people in the games area is huge. The chances of seeing someone in there from here pretty incredible.<BR>Anyway, it's something else for you to spend your time on.<P>ANNA<P>

AGG<P>I know here, when you talk to atty. one of the things they ask is if you think the marriage can be saved..if you say yes, then they can have the judge recommend counseling first..

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Goodguy:<BR><B>Just a question for the oldtimers out there. I live in Colorado a no-fault state. WS is moving out next weekend and I have a feeling as soon as she is out that she will file for divorce. Does anyone know how this might be slowed down either through my actions or legally?????</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>GG,<P>Pa is a no fault state, but still allows fault grounds that will delay a divorce for at least 2 years...all states are different though.<P>Check with a lawyer as to the time limit in your state (you can probably also find this online)<P>If she files for a no fault divorce and you refuse to agree to it then she will have to wait for this time limit to run out....again here in PA that happens to be 2 years....and yes you or the court may also be able to request counseling.<BR> <P>Good luck<P>Randy