Well guys.......I have not posted in so long. I have been divorced now for about a year. My X had his internet (2nd OW) move in with im last July 2000. <BR>My youngest daughter called my oldest daughter at her appartment and told her that Dad was getting married.<P>My oldest daughter called me and was crying on the phone. She cannot believe it. I do not know what to say. I want to cry to.<P>I looked at our wedding pictures from 1980....we were married for almost 20 years.....it is so hard to think of him saying those vowes to someone else.<P>I feel so sorry for my kids........my youngest daughter emailed me and told me she loved me and not to call dad and yell at him.<P>Somehow I always thought that maybe he would start to miss me. My sister in law says it is only a piece of paper and it does not mean anything.<P>I am just kinda numb I guess I am waiting for the tears to come.<P>I know alot of you here do not know me........I have been coming to this board for almost 2 years when this nightmare first started.<P>Thanks for letting me talk.......<BR> <BR>

I am so sorry this is happening to you, my ex moved in with internet man and has been there for 7 months now. The pain of that the thought of her leaving for a stranger after 20yrs was enough, so I can't imagine the pain you have right now knowing they are going to marry. Hang tough you will survive, you have made it this far.<P>

(((((((M3K))))))))<P>I remember you, sweety.....no advice....but heartfelt prayers for YOU......<P>You're GONNA land on your feet! Promise...<P>Best Wishes,<BR>Xman (Bill)

Thanks Jabber and Xman,<BR>I needed that hug and your thoughtfullness!<P>I am doing a little better now. I thought about if I ever really wanted him back. I think everyone whose had a spouse leave them has this little fantasy that one day it will all work out and your family will be back together again.<P>What I really miss is having that family unit. My oldest daughter has an apartment, my son is living with my X and my youngest is living with me. We are not under the same roof anymore and I miss that.<P>My X is not getting some trophey wife. She is very ugly ad fat to boot. She has never been married and she is 33 and he is 44. <P>Life goes on.....but why does it have to hurt so much. I a truely thankful for what I do have and I have to look at my future. I just want someday to have a future with someone to share it with. I do so hate to make all decisions by myself....I was married so long I do miss it.<P>Thanks again. I hope this day finds you in good spirits. It is a beautiful day here..........I might take a walk and get some sunshine. <BR>

(((((M3K)))))<P>The only thing you can do for your kids is to be there for them. Hold them when they cry and listen when they're angry...<P>Take care,<BR>Mitzi

M3K,<P>I know how hard this is. My ex married OW#2 5 weeks after the divorce was final. It does not really bother me that he is married to someone else but sometimes I still feel like I'm living a dream and I'll wake up to find us together again. We were married for 16 years 11 mos and 18 days. We lived together for 6 mos before that.<BR>My oldest daughter is in collage and won't even speak to her Dad. My younger two are with me and I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have them here. <P>I often do wonder if someday he will regret all of this. If he will eventually miss me or is the new wife really the love of his life. I guess time will only tell.<P>This can really suck can't it. I wonder just how long we will have to live with this before we can truely be happy again.<P>Jill<P>------------------<BR>live for today for there may not be a tomorrow

My x married again last October. Funny thing is, he didn't tell me before the wedding and he has not told me since. I only got info through the children who are only 10 and 8 now. they were 4 and 2 when he left.<P>I knew it was the final nail in the coffin of our marriage and it ended any hopes of it ever being reborn. <P>But I would rather not live with this man than live with a man who does not like me and who often treats me very disrespectfully and inappropriately.