Is this the curse of IT people? I am a sql programmer. So it looks like us sensitive IT people get burned all the time. Or is it just coincidence? Nowilltocarryon is also in IT!!<P>I have decided the next relationship I have will be with someone in the IT industry, I just think that there is a certain something about people in IT that makes them nicer!<P>Pantha

Pantha,<P>I know this message wasn't for me but I looked anyway. <P>Anyway, just wanted to tell you. One thing great about the divorce is that it gave me the initiative to learn something new. I am learning SQL. I went on brain bench a couple of weeks ago and scored a perfect score on a sql test. I was very excited!!! I don't feel that I know enough to feel comfortable enough to look for a job in the field yet, but I know some day I will.<P><BR>ANNA<BR>

I looked too. Sorry to bust your bubble but I think you guys are a bit over optimistic. My wife and the OM are both in IT. Maybe their the Black Sheep of the IT industry?

LOL @ PURPLE TANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!YOU BUBBLE BUSTER!!!<BR>CAN'T STOP LAUGHIN'......<BR>ANNA<P><BR>

Pantha, Anna2000 & Purple Tang:<BR>Hey, great to hear from others in the industry! <P> I think designing good software demands a great deal of introspection. I think that this quality serves us well in the "outside" world. <BR>The hard part comes when we deal with people who live on a more surface level...like my W! I don't mean to imply that she is shallow, but simply that I have never had to think more deeply in my life than when I have had to design software and I think that that deep thinking spills over into the rest of my life.<P>My company is so small that we need to wear more than one hat. I write vb code and sql queries everyday. I am really getting hooked on SQL.<BR>For those who are interested, The is a great book, titled "The Guru's Guide to Transact SQL", by Ken Henderson.<BR>I thought I knew SQL until I read this book.<P>vb_guy<p>[This message has been edited by vb_guy (edited September 23, 2001).]

Anna good for you. Just practice doing some sql and you'll soon feel confident enough to go get that job of your dreams!<P>Purple I am sorry... definately must be the black sheep...<P>vb_guy I agree with you. Programming means a lot of introspection. So I guess we are trying to rationalise the situation we find ourselves in. If... then... else.... While... do... else... you know what I mean. I am so wanting to get back into VB I love VB, but just never seem to actually take the time to pick up my skills in that area. I really think that is going to be one of my goals.<P>Pantha

Well, you may be on to something here. I, too, am IT. This is kind of scary. My wife never quite followed my career. She was a business major and is in accounting now. Imagine my shock when low and behold, "The Clown" is an accountant. Heres to the IT gurus.

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VB guy,<P>I will definitely go buy the book. Also, if you or anyone has other books to recommend, please tell me about them. As I have only been learning SQL for a couple of months and the only book I've read from cover to cover is SQL in 24 hours. Which was a good starter book, but GEEEZ the small mistakes in that book drove me nuts...<P>I am getting more and more hooked on SQL too. The first time I created a table, I set in awe of the result I got, the first time I did a querie and got results again I set in awe. Everytime I learn something new about SQL I get so excited. I have been practicing by creating a fake database. Trying to come up with potential problems as fix them as I go. When I was creating my tables and inputting fake data, I came to a problem where I needed the database to delete all related information from other tables automatically when deleting a persons id from one table, researched it and applied the on delete cascade, once again the results truely amazed me. I so hope the excitement will always be there. I do feel a little so silly that such little things get me excited. <P>Another thing that amazes me is, always being an end user before I now look at databases in a whole new light. How very cool!<P>ANNA<p>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 24, 2001).]

Dang instead of editing i reposted. Ignore this post.<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 24, 2001).]

Pantha,<P>I think the problem with Us IT People is that we seem to analyze our situations or problems logically . We don’t seem to handle emotional problems well as there is no one right answer when it comes to emotions..<BR>Ive also read up on some statistics on professions and IT professionals are one of the highest casualties when it comes to divorce. Their explanation are : Keeping up with Technology . ( Impacts Family quality time ). Attempt to analyze all problems logically. Mission critical applications. ( 24 HRS Call out)<BR>

That is a very interesting statistics. I am a network enigeer for the military. I am on constant call lately. Had to go in several times during my sons football and soccer games. Wife has been helping somewhat, but I can tell she is starting to get ticked about it. Heres to US!<BR>

Anna:<BR>Is your goal to be a programmer? If so then there is one name you need to know: Dan Appleman. His web site is <A HREF="http://www.desaware.com." TARGET=_blank>www.desaware.com.</A> <P>I hope you achieve all that you want!<P>vb