Folks, this may just be coincedence and perhaps I might be reading to much into it. But in our separation agreement there is a statement "Husband and wife shall live as though unmarried". At first, I thought it might be standard separation agreement stuff, but all of the templates dont have it. It must have been added by her attorney. Another thing. There is a divorce forum, specifically for SC. There was a post on it from a guy named Mike. It basically said, I have left my wife, I want to date someone in SC and I make 75k, she makes 25k. Will this dating affect my alimony payment. Innocent at the time. It was posted on 22 August, 2 weeks after my wife and guy were in contact. Her is the kicker. Two days after I confronted my wife, low and behold I went back to the board to post, I use RobC there as well, and the message had been deleted. Interesting, huh. Now my wife is still denying the other man, plus she has decided she doesnt want to split weekends. I think they are scared and are starting to cover tracks. Any thoughts?

RobC.<P>First did you read my post to ANB3? I had no idea you were an engineer too!!! LOL!!!<P>I looked at your profile to see if SC was a atate or something...what does it mean?<P>BTW what site was it, I'm getting more interested in that subject every day.<P>NOW, to your little problem. Did you sign that document? Cos living as unmarried is such an ambiguous term...and luckily for you if that's how it is actually phrased, it is OBVIOUSLY ambiguous and slanted in her favour, so she can not be accused of adultery. That is lucky for you cos it is so badly phrased a judge could easily pick up malicious intent. Course, that's if it MATTERS where you are, I just found out that it doesn't matter who did what in Oz, except in custody issues...sucks huh? I would get that ammended asap if I were you.<P>The site thing may be coincidental, maybe not. It is hard to tell, but you have a gut feeling, so i would tend to go with that. Assume the obvious is my new motto, since my big awakenings this week!<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky<P>

She is obviously lying to cover her tracks or whatever. I live close ot Houston and the split could be 60% - 40% or 70% - 30% since she may have committed adultery. It is usually 50% - 50%. Maybe both of them have woke up and are realistically looking at the whole picture, money and everything. Do you think she has been reading your posts on MB? You might want to change your screen name if she is. Things sound to coincedental to me.<P>I've been divorced for 2 years and it is amazing to me of the things that just pop in my head and make me wonder about things that happened a long time ago. I was the one that had the affair, but after talking to his best friends wife, she told me some interesting stories when her husband and my X went to all these training schools in San Antonio, Austin, etc. It doesn't matter now, but I wonder if he ever had an affair. There were too many times that I was accused for having an affair when that was the last thought on my mind. I always had my girls with me even when he went hunting for a week at our land, went to his mothers in Florida hunting, etc. I was the one that stayed at home with the girls while he went to X-mas parties for misc occasions. I didn't know anyone and didn't care to go, but I trusted him, yet I was always accused of having an affair.<P>Finally I just got tired of being accused and I was emotionally withdrawn many years from the marriage and I just didn't care anymore. I hated the person I had become because of all the emotional abuse I went through.<P>I would CYA (cover your [censored]) just in case your instincts are right.

Thanks all. I am just going to leave it alone. Something is up. I really dont care now. I really dont. All I wanted was honesty and truth. That is not too much I dont think. I will just do what is right. They have to live with it not me. I love my kids and my wife. I will continue to be a good father and husband. I made my mistakes, doesnt mean I have to keep making them. I am content with being ME! If she wants to tell me, thats fine, if she doesnt that fine too. She knows I know, and really that is all I care about. Ive been through it before and I made it then, Ill make it now. Man, I feel great today. Of course, tomorrow, I may want some one to run over me with a large vehicle, but thats tomorrow - another day. I will handle it then. Right now, I am happy!