People I need help. I'm so ****ed off right now I can't see straight. I just found WS car at motel. I feel like busting in the door and kicking some OM a**. Please help what should I do.

Goodguy,<P>I think it is time for you to tell her that you can't do this any longer and she needs to get her things and move out now. Still with patience though, but firmness.<P>I am so sorry she is hurting you so bad. It's time for you to get take your dignity back that she is stomping on.<P>Take care guy. <P>ANNA

Anna <BR>What's the point she's moving out Saturday.

She's hurting you every day. It'll still hurt but if she is going to flaunt this in your face every day, she needs to go. Also, maybe she has no respect for you because you are being too tolerant with this.<P>ANNA <P>

Dang, where's Nina when we need her.<P>Someone else give him advice. I don't wanna be the only one with an opinion on this one.<P>ANNA<BR>

so what do you suggest should I confront her tonight. Before she left I we had a really good talk and I told her that I would always be here, I've learned and grown so much blah blah blah I came away feeling so good and strong. She even connected like she was coming around. I don't know I feel like if go off tonight that I will ruin everything I've built up the past few weeks.

goodguy,<P>Then do what you think is best.<P>By the way, were you following her or was it a coincidence that you located her car?<P>ANNA<P>

two more things that bother me.<P>Do you worry about contracting STD's from this guy she's with?<BR>ANNA<P>

Well <P>I came home early today and found her packing up her stuff into her car. I imagine he is just picking up the stuff and then going back to Denver. Hell I don't know maybe she's planning on getting out of here tomorrow. I really don't think so though. Anyways she told me she wasn't going to be here tonight and would be back first thing in the morning. Yeah I did a little driving where I shouldn't have.

I don't know about the STD thing. We had sex only once that I know since their relationship began. On a side note man don't you just wish you knew it was going to be your last time. You would just go all out. Anyways, my wife had a condition long before the A that she was taking pills on and then I did too but she never told me exactly what it was. She said it was just a woman condition and that I could keep giving it back to her if I wasn't taking the pills. Okay now you are really scaring me. Anyways I noticed soon after the A was out in the open that she was back on the pills.<P>By the way that's just one thing what are the two things?<BR>

Goodguy,<P>Well, you need to do what in your heart you feel is the best. You can still tell her in a nice way, that you will still be here for her but that you want her to stay forever if she could leave this other guy but that if she can't do that then she needs to go ahead and leave now and not wait til Saturday. By telling her this, you are not telling her you won't be there always for her, you are just telling her that if she wants to be with this guy she needs to go now.<P>This has to be your decision though. What you will feel best with. Me I'm just ready to kill the insensitive *****!!!<P>Sorry about that last comment.<P>ANNA<BR>

Okay I have the bottle of pills right here it is <BR>metronidazol. Anyone have an idea what this is for??

Goodguy,<P>I feel bad but I can't remember reading why you guys got to this point to begin with. Can you give me a brief summary?<P>ANNA<BR>

Hang on i'll go look up the medicine.<BR>ANNA<P>

It was the whole we weren't happy with our lives. Adjusting to marriage. She got the seven month itch. What I know is that she was totally miserable with work, our new town we lived in tons of things and so was I. We got in a rut we were both bored. Not paying attention to each other and she met OM. Bad timing for me. Friendship grew. Had alot in common. Both moms with cancer. Friendship grew out of hand. SHe still says I never did anything that we couldn't have fixed. It was the whole I didn't mean to fall in love but I did routine.<P>

Did she have lyme disease?<P>ANNA

Oh god I don't think so. Well I'm not too worried the info I found was something to do with an infection.

I think it's just an antibiotic that can be used for many things.<P>ANNA<BR>

Goodguy,<P>I could understand you being so patient and wonderful if you did something horrible, like cheat first, or hit her, or just verbally abuse her, but it sounds like you did none of these. <P>Does she go to church or believe in God?<P>ANNA<P>

I know she really believes in God. Prays often. Yesterday when she came back I was still dressed up from going to church and to look damn good when she came home. When I told her that I went to church (first time since I was a teenager) she seemed well I don't know the word. But she said oh you wait until we are broken up to go to church. I said that I would have always gone but she always put down organized religion. We come from the bible belt so that could be understood. She was really religous as a teenager. Anyways when I said I never thought you had any intrest she said she did. I told her I would had always had gone had I known that. LONG SILENCE! Then I said well just chalk that up as another thing that we could have easily overcome with a little conversation. ANOTHER LONG SILENCE and then she agreed. We went to a memorial service after Sept. 11 together but that is the only time we ever really attended church together.