I am about to lose it with my cousin, it's been 10 months since I discovered my h's affair. He ended it when I found out, but for the past few days my cousin has been calling me, telling me I need to leave my h, that I am sending my son the wrong message by forgiving him again (no this isn't the first time ). She is really hurting me with the things she is saying. One night it was that my h had said that he wished he had married her, the next night this changed to he made a pass at her. Only one problem, IF this happened why has she waited over 20 years to tell me? Thats not the worst she's had to say either. I am so tired of trying to calmly explain my position concerning my marriage to her. This is VERY upsetting to me. I am going through enough right now, (ow and her h contacted my h at work 2 days ago, they want to be friends and "bury the hatchet" yea well I do too, but not the way they want to) I don't need this mess from my family on top of everything else. I realise my family is concerned that my h will hurt me again, and that they love me, but please telling me I'm lazy and a fool is not the help and concern I need. I have even stopped answering my phone she just won't stop, even though she knows it hurts me.<P>------------------<BR>Deb<BR>-------------------------<BR>WE are the champions my friends, and we'll keep on fighting till the end<BR>Queen - We are the champions