Today is my anniversary and I am sad that my W, who is divorcing me, can not work up even the slightest amount of sentiment about it. What do I expect, she is DIVORCING me, so why should she care about our anniversary? Having said that, I AM HAVING SENTIMENTAL THOUGHTS about this day. I love my W very much.<P>To my little Wife:<P>Happy Fourth Anniversary, Sweetheart. I hope that you have a wonderful day today and that all you ever wanted for your life comes to you.<P>Your loving husband.<BR>

Hey beer man!!!<P>(((((((((((((((((vb_guy))))))))))))))))))))<P>Hugs to you on your special day, and do not think for a moment that this day passed her by. No WAY, man!<P>Make sure you have a couple of beers tonight for yourself, to celebrate how far you have come since this has all started.<P>In the meantime, is it inappropriate to send her a single rose, no message, just your name?<P>Just so she knows you remembered. Cos it is a point in the love bank, even if she won't admit it now, she will surely remember it in the future. No matter what happens, she will remember that gesture, and will one day think hkindly of it.<P>Think about it, and look after yourself.<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

In the same boat, friend- my eighth anniversary was 9-4-01, one month after my wife moved out. I posted about it on this thread, if you're interested: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/004219.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/004219.html</A> <P>I gave her a card and a small gift, and didn't expect anything in return- which was good, because all I got at the time was a very blank look. A couple of days later, she thanked me for it- no big deal, but nice. She and I have been on very good terms during the separation, and I didn't make a huge romantic gesture I was pretty confident that she wouldn't hate it. If you and your wife are on decent terms, maybe she'd accept a note.<BR>

Hey vb_guy<P>I am sorry you cannot be with her today. I almost cried when I read your words. "litte wife" something my H would have said... <P>Well I don't have any advice, just wanted you know that I am sorry for you.<P>Pantha

Hello, Nina, dabigtrain, Pantha:<BR>First, I wanted to thank you all very, very much for your heartfelt replies and for your interest in, and caring for, my situation.<P>I sent my Wife a dozen long stemmed roses, for which she was very grateful. I told her that I was not sending her flowers to make her love me or to get her to come back to me(she does not want to come back), but rather to let her know how much I love her.<P>I would not want her back right now, anyway. If she came back now, I do not think that her heart would be in it. If she ever does want to return to me, and I feel that she is sincere, I will take her back with open arms. If, however, she decides to never return, I will let her go with all the love and good wishes I am capable of giving. I love her because I love her, not because she loves/loved me, or because she wants to be with me.<BR>Again, thank you all for your thoughts and my thoughts and prayers are with you all, too.<P><BR>vb_guy

wow,<P>your post and reply have put a big lump in my throat... i feel your pain. really. my 16th wedding anniversary is October 5th. just 8 days away. my h left me and i am scared to feel what i may feel. our final d papers haven't come yet, but they are due any day. <P>i posted a few minutes ago about our date last night. in some ways i feel comfortable not being with him, but the reality of it being over is still hard.<P>i think it was a beautiful gesture that you sent her flowers. no matter how she feels, i believe they softened her heart. go with God and He'll go with you..God bless you.<P>kim...

To idostylin, Nina, Pantha, & and all the wives who will not get flowers on their next anniversary,<BR>(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*),(*)<P>that is a cyber bouquet of flowers.<P>It is the best I could come up with on a keyboard. I hope no one thinks it is too cheesey.<P>My best and prayers to all,<BR>vb_guy

good idea, vb-guy - here's a modification:<P>(*) (*) (*) (*) (*) {*} (*) (*) (*) (*) (*) (*)<BR> | | | | | | | | | | | | <BR> | | | | | | | | | | | | <BR> | | | | | | | | | | | | <P>(that's a dozen long-stemmed roses...)<P>aw shoot, it doesn't work...<BR><p>[This message has been edited by dabigtrain (edited September 27, 2001).]

thanks vb and dbt,<P>you guys made me feel better. not too cheesy. i love roses any kind of way... <P>kim...<BR>

VB,<P>You were so sweet to send those to her. I think that's awesome.<P>Oh yea, 'bout those cyber flowers....not to knock em or anything but dang I must have my mind in the gutter because flowers were not what I saw... Although, I thought that was so incredibly thoughtful.<P>Take care,<P>ANNA<P>

How about something like this.<P> ((@))((@))((@))((@))<BR> ((@))((@))((@))((@))<BR> ((@))((@))((@))((@))<BR><| | | | | | | | | | | |><BR><| | | | | | | | | | | |><BR><| | | | | | | | | | | |><BR> <BR>Awww maybe a little better?<P>ANNA<P> AYYEEEEE!!!!!! I hate this! Why doesn't it put in my spaces where I want them to go!!!! <P>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 27, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 27, 2001).]

vb_guy thank you!! that was incredibly sweet!! Once again... tears to my eyes...<P>I am glad that you sent the roses to your W and that she was happy with them. I think it is a beautiful gesture, and what you said to her is good plan Aing as far as I understand.<P>Goodluck with the rest of your day.<P>Pantha

Thank you vb_guy,<P>That was so thoughtful and kind of you to think of us. I am glad you sent the roses, and that she appreciated the gesture.<P>My anniversary is November 9th. Don't see any flowers being sent to me, so these lovely boquets will do very nicely.<P>Now for my turn....<P> @ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ @ @<BR> \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/ \!/<BR> ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !<BR> ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !<P>RATS!!!! LOL!<p>[This message has been edited by Nina too (edited September 27, 2001).]

Hello, all...Anna, I meant those flowers for you, too. Thank you, everyone for making flowers, too. <BR>I think that everyone else's attempts were better than mine!<P>Happy anniversary to all and to all a good night.<P>VictoriaBitter_guy<p>[This message has been edited by vb_guy (edited September 27, 2001).]

vb,<P>oh that's funny!!!<BR>BTW, love the name!<P>ANNA<P>PS<BR>forgot to say Thanks for the flowers, so THANKS(((HUGS)))<p>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 27, 2001).]

AYEEEE!!!<BR>Never mind...<P>ANNA<P><p>[This message has been edited by Anna2000 (edited September 27, 2001).]