I am six months into the divorce process and it was my initial decision to go through with the divorce. I am glad that I made this decision, although I am angry that my husband has truly unrecognized that he could be 50% of the problem. <P>Whether he realizes this or not is irrelevant to me, but I have noticed that he has tried to replace everything in his life that I had taken away. I took the dogs, he bought two new dogs. I took some of the assets in the house he replaced all of them. He lives in our house, I was the one who had to leave.<P>My life has transitioned quite a bit. Back to the on my own lifestyle, move into a smaller place, have the old bed and things I first came into the marriage with. I am not upset that this is what I am left with, but what hurts or bothers me is that he hasn't had any changes other than myself leaving as permenant. He is on a month vacation to Arizona, he delays the divorce process for these types of things.<P>Has anyone noticed that some spouses can't deal with loss well and how does the other spouse who tried to financially make it easier on the other spouse accept that they won't ever get why we left. Do these husbands or wifes ever get that maybe they are at fault too. And no matter how much you try to replace it doesn't erase the problems that are there.<P>I know this doesn't make sense, but I needed to vent a little. I just feel like I am always getting the raw end of the deal in every situation from pre-marriage, to marriage, and now divorce.

I filed for divorce last Tuesday, the H wanted it and I filed because he would have never went and filed and I need to get on with my life (even though its hard right now).<P>In the end, I will have the house and everything in it. He wants no parts of anything or no responsibilities. In the end, he will have a car payment, charge card payment, loan payment, insurance payment. He will have approximately $240 a month left. That doesn't include a place to live. Currently he is living with friends or from what I have heard a woman. He wanted the fun, happy life and he will see that its not going to be happy land for him in the end.<P>My H has let go of me, a marriage, a house and everything else just so he can do what he wants. He made no effort in wanting to reconcile our marriage or work at things (our marriage wasn't that bad, we both contributed to the problems). But hey, if he wants this new life, he can have it. Maybe one day he will realize that our marriage was worth saving.

LA - Good for him! Let him find out the hard way that the best things in life aren't bought! Too bad he has to spend all HIS money just to learn that lesson. You can't be replaced. It seems he doesn't know how to deal with that loss.