<p>[This message has been edited by lost-in-life (edited September 28, 2001).]

Lara,<P>My H left for similar reasons to yours, so he said anyway. Ten days later he told me he wanted a divorce, never heard anything else until the five-six week mark and he said nothing had changed, but he never said the word.<P>It has been 12 weeks now and two nights ago I asked him if he really wanted to do thid...he could not give me a straight answer.<P>My point is this...your H does not know what he wants...he will tell you things he doesn't mean, and will hurt you incredibly, because at the time he thinks he DOES mean them. The WS's waffle around in the fog quite a lot.<P>If you're wise, you won't push the divorce on him...don't bring it up at all; if he truly wants it as he says, he will get things rolling. But if you look around this board, you'll see many examples of them not doing a thing about it. Because they aren't sure? Probably that, but also a bit of fear about it all too.<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky<P>

divorve is a finacial exercise, lool at it as a bussiness deal, and do everything you can to protect yourself and your children. anger is very normal and the way he is acting is cinsistant with a WS. I agree with Nina, what is your hurry let him make the decisions if this is not what you want<P>

My H told me he wanted a divorce. So I went and filed because he would have made no efforts in getting a lawyer to file. I can't sit here for months waiting on him to file, I need to get on with my life.<P>My H is giving up everything to live the fun, happy life he wants and will eventually (I think) realize that this marriage was worth saving. I don't know if he just said he wanted a divorce to shut me up or call my bluff but I have asked him a few times after I filed if he still wanted a divorce and he said yes. So, onward the divorce goes. I just don't know if he will sign the papers or not.