<BR>Hey everyone i need your input..I filed for the divorce mainly because i was positive i couldnt change my stbx mind..Does anyone think a man's mind can be changed even if he is set on the divorce, but at the same time he is stalling on signing the divorce papers...Any ideas on how i can change his mind..??..

Hi there, if he is really set on the divorce, he will not change his mind. You can't make someone do something they don't want to do.<P>He doesn't want to sign the papers, im my opinion because he isn't sure if it IS what he wants. So your mission is to Plan A as much as you can, to create a better you and maybe it will let him see a better image of you.<P>Nina

When my wife told me she wanted a divorce her mind was definately set and that did not change. But as soon as I took some inative and got paperwork flowing she stalled. I don't think it was because she was thinking about things just the emotion of the moment.<P>Now something that I believe that most men and some women have the ability to do is not face their problems. If dealing with the problem brings them pain then if they ignore it, it's not a problem. My X refused to discuss one issue with me, ignoring it hoping it would go away, well it finally got discussed in the final minutes before a full blown trial. We were able to negotiate, but it still cost me 5,000 and I got what I had wanted before this whole thing started.....<P>Best of luck...<P>Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers<P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-

I filed for divorce about 2 weeks ago because my STBX wanted it. As for me wanting it, of course I didn't but he made no efforts in wanting to make this marriage work. Everytime after he said he wanted a divorce, I would ask him if he was sure and he would always say yes.<P>Last night he stopped over to give me a few things and again I asked him. He said "yes" he wants a divorce and that's that. I can't change him mind, I can't do anything to change him mind. To me, it seems that his mind is made up. When he was leaving last night I made the comment on the order of "when you decide that this new life isn't what you thought it would be, you might be knocking on the door in a few months or a year asking to come back". His reply to me wasn't "I told you, this is it, after the divorce its final, no turning back". His actual reply was "you might end up finding someone else in the meantime". His reply makes me wonder if divorce isn't what his heart wants him to do but he feels this is what he wants to do.<P>My STBX doesn't want to change his ways. I made the efforts to change my ways to make this marriage work. I thought he would see that but he didn't. I did all I could do, now he is on his own, living with friends, having no money and bills to pay. If that was me, I know I would have made every effort possible to make my marriage work and restore the lost love and feelings for my spouse. He lost alot.<BR>