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<BR>I need some opinons or thoughts on what i'm feeling..I've been in therapy since my stbx left to help me deal with the situation..It has helped ALOT..But there is one issue that i cannot forgive or forget, that my stbx was not there for our babys birth..He knew i was admitted to the hospital and the labor had to be induced because of complications..But yet he still wouldnt come..He left on a trip that night with a buddy to go have fun..And then a week later took off to another state to a friends wedding and never came back...Moved in with his mom and dad..It still hurts me so much..DO i have the right to be angry?..Am i upset with him over something that is dumb??..I cant forgive him..
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I think you have a right to be angry, you felt he should be there to support you and share a very special time. You were betrayed and that hurts like hell. It will take time but you will work through this, just keep taking care of yourself.<P>
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It sounds like your H has a case of Daddy phobia...some men do this when faced with the responsibility of children...could that be it???<P>His behaviour seems to be running away from you and the baby, and avoiding the reality that he is a father with a family.<P>Are you two very young?<P>We need a bit more detail of your story in order to give you more help!<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky
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Yes, you have every right to be angry, hurt, and plain pi$$ed off at him. I am a little curious to whether some of these feelings are anger towards yourself for being with him and knowing he was not the husbandly/fatherly type. You can harbor these feelings towards him for the rest of your life, but why?<P>The fact is unless he chooses to never see his child that you are going to have to deal with this man for a long time. Spending your emotional energy focusing on your hatred will not do you or your child any good. Now is the time to focus on becomeing the best you and mom that you can be. Believe me that will take all the emotional energy you have and there is no need to waste any on him.<P>Hugs, Thoughts, & PRayers<P>------------------<BR>Love, Bill<P>-There are none so blind as those who refuse to see!-<BR>-Stand up and do the right thing, even if your standing alone.-
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