Hi everyone,<P>How was your vacation from MB? [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <P>I'll bet we all got more house cleaning done than usual. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] I know I did!<P>I would love to have an update from everyone.<BR> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Take care all,<P>ANNA

Well, I'm fine Anna, but you already know that [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

Anna & Nina:<BR>How is it going? How is SQL and Australia?<BR>I hope your lives are smoothing out some.<P>My W moved out last Friday and I have been through another whole round of pain, confusion & sadness. I have been missing this board something fierce lately. Tomorrow is my last day of work before I get laid off. <BR>Why is it that when they move out that we go through hell all over again.<BR>My story has been written & re-written on these boards by so many other people that I know that I am not alone by any means.<P>Well, glad to touch base with you two and any others who drop by.<P><BR>My best to all,<BR>VictoriaBitter_Guy

(((((((((((VictoriaBitter_guy)))))))))))))<P>Wow, I am so sorry for you to be going through this pain and not be able to come here for hugs, and help.<P><BR>Of course you can write any time.<P>Love and light in big doses,<P>Jacky<p>[ October 12, 2001: Message edited by: Nina too ]

Hey y'all, you know I was starting to get back to being active on the site and then BOOM!!!!! So I really missed everyone. I missed jesting as well as offering my opinions.<P>Glad it's back up but now I'm going out of town for a couple days so I still won't see y'all til basically monday. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <P>Anyway, everyone have a great weekend.

LH we have officially lost the castle...new one at cinderella's post!!!

Hey Nina, VB guy and lost hub,<P>Glad you guys are doing well. It's going ok here too. Thank God Nina was smart enough to set us up on her IM while the site was down. This helped a lot during days that are bad.<P>It's bad though because we had so few emails to communicate with most of the people we know on here. We should start some sort of email log so if the site goes down we can still communicate. <P>See y'all,<P>ANNA

Nina!<P>I tried to send you an email, but it got bounced back as undeliverable. <P>My email is doxies@optonline.net...please mail me so that I can get your e-address.<P><BR>Thanks,<BR>vb

I've been out of commission- sick last Wednesday and Thursday, on the road (to Boston for my sister's wedding) Friday-Monday, then catching up on work all this week. So I feel completely out of touch with everyone's stories here. I'm just going to read everything to reacquaint myself.

Hi everyone,<P>I'm doing okay...only occassionally cruising this site. I've been on here a long time. It's been 2 years since d-day and almost as long being separated from my H. He keeps saying he's "going to" file for divorce. I'm giving him until the end of October.<P>I will be starting a "Women in Transition" group next week, for 10 weeks. I've never gone to a group like this before, so it should be interesting. I'll keep y'all posted.<P>Other than that, I'm doing pretty good. My password didn't work for my former user name - Mrs.O - so I changed it. It'll change again for real in a few months anyway...<P>Aloha,<BR>Ms.O <BR> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ October 12, 2001: Message edited by: Ms.O ]

Hey dabigtrain and Mrs. O,<P>Glad to hear from you. <P>I'm glad you are feeling better DBT. <P>Mrs. O, at least you get to start all over with very few post and pretend your the new girl on the block again. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Hey!! Glad you're back up and running because I know a lot of people really count on the support they get here.<P>I really wish we could designate the Divorcing/Divorced pages for those who are no longer trying to Plan it or fix it and have finally accepted that it's over. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I wasn't given ANY possibility of fixing mine - he was done and that was it. Sure wish he'd mentioned his unhappiness TO ME about 10 years ago instead of sharing his problems with those OW. Oh well, what's done is done - or almost, anyway. Just trying to say that we need a place for people who AREN'T doing any of the planning and trying cause they're done but still need support and guidance and information. Does anyone else agree with me?<P>Well, that's how I've been. How about you?!

BB,<P>I see your point. I would like to find more people in the situation I am in, who are moving on, but at the same time I like the variety of people on d/d. I have gained so much wisdom and knowledge about myself and about the things I am going through, through encouraging words from friends who are trying in their marriage and those who are moving on. <P>I think also I have helped some of the people on here who are working on their marriage as well as those who are moving on. <P>I wouldn't mind if MB had a forum called "Moving on". A forum where we could give advice on things to do to help us through our new life. It's tough to start all over. Very tough. Sometimes I do worry about being insensitive on here, with post pertaining to moving on. I do remind myself though that divorced/divorcing is for both those who are moving on and those who are still trying but are getting closer to divorce. If, there were a moving on forum, I would want anyone, those who are still trying to make there marriage work and those moving on, to be able to post and give advice on this forum too.<P>I think the great mixture of people we have on here is so healthy for us all. Those who are still working on their marriage, I have so much respect for, as well as those who are moving on, I have respect for also. I think it shows that whether you move on or you stay and work on your marriage, either way, we will all be just fine. <P>You know too, if we had a forum such as "moving on" when I first got here. I wonder if I ever would have come on the other forums and met people that are starting to mean a lot to me. People who are becoming wonderful friends. Most of these people aren't moving on, so I wonder if I would have met Nina, Brandon, CJ and Debbie, as well as the many others I respect and have helped me so much. <P>Well, anyway, it is a good thought. One that possibly should be suggested to the MB administrators. Also, maybe you, I and others should do more threads for people like us on here. Such as the threads I have seen on "dating before and after the divorce".<P>Well I'm glad you are doing so well. Take care and keep me updated on everything.<P>C'ya,<P>ANNA<p>[ October 13, 2001: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]

I'll tell you the scouts honest truth: Sometimes I'm just plain jealous - because he wouldn't even try. I feel like he stole something very precious from me - my marriage and my dream of the future.<P>Yup, just plain jealous - and sometimes its hard to read about those that get the chance to try.<P>Ugly green monsters. But I do like "moving on" - how do we get it suggested to the guys in charge?

Hi there!!!<P>bb, you can try postin a thread to the moderators (all of them, so that the message will get through) or you can go to the Feedback/Technical Forum board ans suggest it there.<P>Thanks Anna [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] I love you too!<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

I love this idea...lets get it done.<P>Moving on.....and lets do it right this time!<P>Great idea!<P>RAndy

I believe that a Moving on forum is a great idea. I know that I am moving on with my life yet still need the feed back that I get from Divorce/Divorcing. I gave up trying to save a marriage that had no chance and now I'm going through other issues that relate to divorce, custody and Moving on with my life. For many of us we are now involved in the "Divorce Trap" where other people are involved in our life’s i.e. Law guardians, Physiologists, accountants and lawyers. A moving on forum could be very helpful. Try this link and read it. I found it very helpful.<BR> <A HREF="http://66.111.66.234/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=58&t=000002" TARGET=_blank>http://66.111.66.234/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=58&t=000002</A>

I believe that a Moving on forum is a great idea. I know that I am moving on with my life yet still need the feed back that I get from Divorce/Divorcing. I gave up trying to save a marriage that had no chance and now I'm going through other issues that relate to divorce, custody and Moving on with my life. For many of us we are now involved in the "Divorce Trap" where other people are involved in our life’s i.e. Law guardians, Physiologists, accountants and lawyers. A moving on forum could be very helpful. Try this link and read it. I found it very helpful.<BR> <A HREF="http://66.111.66.234/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=58&t=000002" TARGET=_blank>http://66.111.66.234/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=58&t=000002</A>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Nina too:<BR><STRONG>bb, you can try postin a thread to the moderators (all of them, so that the message will get through)</STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>okay, but how do I do that? I've never tried a chat room 'cause I just don't get it - but I thought I could handle this!! <BR>Can anyone tell me how to do this?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Anna2000:<BR><STRONG> Such as the threads I have seen on "dating before and after the divorce".<BR></STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Where are these threads you're referring to? <BR>When your husband turns into a stranger overnight and so completely rejects you, it does a lot of horrible things to your self-esteem. I've been such a "good" wife, I honestly haven't even looked. Now isn't that boring??!! I'd like to go read some of those and see how others are handling this. I guess if it's okay for him to have a girlfriend then I should be able to look at what the market has to offer, too. <P>And, ya know, I don't need a guy for s*x. This might be shocking to some, but I can take care of that by myself - and without any worries about diseases, etc. I just really miss the companionship and closeness of marriage. Just writing those words makes me cry. It's a lonely place to be sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I like my own company, but I'd like to meet some decent men, too, and I want to believe there are at least a few out there.<P>Anyway, where's that thread??