From Children First in Divorce...<BR>A guide for parents..<P>1) Having the child deliver money or messages from one parent to the other thus placing the child in the middle.<P>2) Asking the child to keep a secret from the<BR>other parent and, in effect teaching the child to lie.<P>3) Quizzing the child about what's going on at the other parties home and thus turning the child into a spy or tattletale..<P>4) saying unkind thinks about the other parent to the child or in the presence of the child.<P>5) Trying to conduct parental business when<BR>exchanging children for visitation. Such exchange times are extremely stressful for the children, and many times they feel like they are living out of a suitcase.<P>6) Puttin on a long, sad face when the child goes from one parent to the other, thus teaching the child disloyalty to that parent.<P>7) Telling a child who wants a new toy or wants to do something that it costs money and then telling them " Ask Your father/mother<BR>because they don't pay me enough child support" / or "Ask your father/mother because I give her lots of child support and they just waste it"<P>8) Asking a child subtly or indirectly "which od us do you really want to live with?" and thus placing the burden on the child.<P>9) Allowing the child to take control whenever he or she wants to do so..