WS XW has been moved out since November, 2000 and divorce was final April 16, 2001.<P>XW was an extreme pain a few weeks ago. She physically assaulted me. Later she asked what I wanted. I responded with one word; "peace". She later said that she wants the same thing.<P>Over the last couple of weeks she has been reasonably pleasant. Her tone of voice and communication to me have been fine, almost cordial. She normally avoids looking at me due to her guilt I think and did so today, but just before she departed with our daughter she gave me that look. You know that look. It was not a scowl this time. It was a look of interest I think, albeit very short. Hmm...<P>At least it's nice to have peace.<P>Kevin

Hi Kevin,<P>It's been a long time. I just popped over to see how everyone was doing. You sound good. <P>I am glad to hear some positive signs from your XW. How is your daughter doing? <P>You know if I had a dollar for everytime I have shared your post about the 5 stages of grieving, I probably could take both you and Dana B out to dinner and a movie!!! LOL [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>You both were ever encouraging to me. <P>Here is a bit of your post from that thread:<BR>"Oh, about the depression. You will have bad spells that will get less bad over time. They will also get farther apart. They will not go away overnight. Everytime you have a spell, consider it progress. Let it out so that you can get to feeling normal again. You are feeling jagged as part of you has been ripped away. You will heal in time. Get yourself a new routine and keep busy. If you're busy having fun, then you don't have time to feel bad.<P>Good Luck<P>Been there, done that (still doing it some), getting better every day "<P><BR>You and DanaB helped lay a foundation for me at that time. During a very critical time in my life. Looking back I can't believe how much we have gone through. All in all we have survived. <P>I have a lot of people to thank and I know I am indebted to both you and DanaB. <P>Take care Kevin. Hugs to you and your daughter. Hope the fog keeps lifting. I will pray for clear weather down your way.<P>L.

Hey Orchid,<P>Daughter is doing fine. She's in kindergarten and is doing very well. She does make comment about going back and forth between parents, but seems fairly happy.<P>I'm glad my words helped you. I've been helped by the words of many people here myself.<P>Kevin