The wheel is finally starting to turn , The OM moved his belongings into my house last weekend as I heard that he sold his apartment. Monday morning my W found out that my attorneys are not prepared to settle and that we are going to court on the grounds of the affairs shes had over the last two years. Her Friend who works with her contacted me and told me that my W told her openly that it looks like she will not get the financial amount that she wanted from the divorce settlement, and that she should therefore look for someone else who has more money to support her needs.<P><BR>Wednesday my son phoned me and told me that the OM had not slept over for the last 2 nights.Then her friend phoned me yesterday and tells me that the relationship is over with the OM. Then the shock , She has already found another man, which she is taking to their Company year-end function this weekend .<BR>( This woman has totally lost it ).<P>I have just contacted my attorneys and now we are going for full custody over my children ,as I can not see her bringing men in and out of my children&#8217;s lives as she is currently doing which will effect them emotionally.<P>In away I feel sorry for the OM as what my W has done to him, but the wheel does turn.

Hey NWTCO!<P>First don't feel sorry for OM, tough s&!t for him!<P>But your wife is really playing around with her life, yours and your childrens. You should push for custody and I am sure you will get it. Doesn't she realize how she is affecting the children with men coming in and out their lives, must be really confusing for them. I hope that things get sorted out really quickly for you. <P>Anway good luck with everything.<P>Pantha

Dear Nowill,<BR>Boy oh boy, some people just don't know what they want, only what they don't want, huh? too sad... I'm so sorry that your kids have to go through all this.<P>I am a product of divorce and I believe my mom's promiscuity led me into a life of promiscuity unable to recognize or RESPECT boundaries, which eventually got me involved with a married man...<P>I take full responsibility for my own life and my own mistakes, however, I must say that I totally agree with you doing whatever you can to protect your children's sense of stability.<P>I spent 10 years as a single parent (had an OC from the A with MM), and it wasn't easy, we struggled financially, but I endeavored to give as much stability as I possibly could.<P>I'm now married and so far, my marriage has outlasted my mom's first 3 by the time she was my age! Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and I KNOW she did the best she could, I just think it took her a long time to find what she was looking for and I think it cost us kids a lot of stability in our own lives along the way. Good luck to you in court, sending my prayers and well-wishes your way, keep posting.

Pantha & BINthereDUNthat thanks for your replies. <BR>The Saga continues,Friday night the OM phones me and starts apologizing for any harm that he has caused my kids and myself . ( One thing I must give him his got big b@lls ) He started to tell me how my wife had told him that he was the best thing that ever happened in her life and that she loved him. Then he goes and sells his house so that he can buy her a car ( The same car as mine as I let my wife drive it ). I told him did he ever think the relationship would work as he did not have the money to support her needs . He told me that she had said that money was not an issue as it was love that she was after . ( She knows how to manipulate people wow ).<P>At this stage I was getting a bit ratty so just to get him back I Told him about the new Guy that she was taking to her company function. This really hurt him ( Shame poor him ) . Then he tells me that he has never been this hurt in his life and that he is seen a psychologist to help him through the pain. ( What about the hell that he has put my kids and me through .) I just told him that he got what he deserves and put the phone down.<P>My biggest problem now is that Im blaming my self and questioning myself why did I not see this coming ( My Wife&#8217;s betrayals ) . Her real motives for staying with me .( Money ). I just feel so Used and so upset with myself.

NWTCO please don't blame yourself, it is not a fault of yours to have trusted your wife, she is the one at fault for not being an honest good person. No matter what happened in a relationship, no person should mess around on the other one.<P>About the OM phoning you, he is obviously looking for forgiveness, but he should not have gone out with a married woman in the first place. And by the way your wife has now hurt another man, shows she does not know how to love or understand what love is, she has a lot of learning to do. Don't blame yourself for your wife's actions. You will get through this. You will find happiness, I don't know if your wife will.<P>Pantha