Any ABBA fans can hum along while reading this... <P>I am trying Plan A...H is living with his sister, rent free. He is paying bills that directly affect him as he sees it; things like his vehicle, boat, etc. He is barely contributing to shared expenses like Credit Cards, house pymt. I have $700.00 worth of bills due today (almost $250 of that is gas for his boat). He promised to deposit money 2 times this week...the first deposit was for $60.00, the other is not been followed thru on yet. How do I or do I approach him about this? He is recognizing Plan A actions from me, knows I am trying to be non demanding with him. Knowing this, I feel like he is taking advantage of me, saving money to spend out at the bars (which galls me!) and to save up for a place of his own if/when he decides to go that route. I hate that in all my contacts with him, we end up discussing bills...I want to be associated with more positive interactions! Should I just scrape it out and give him a few more days to follow thru with promise? Per Steve Harley, I try not to call him except once a week just to say Hi, if he hasn't contacted me...also, H may be avoiding me as it is my birthday this weekend.<P>Advice welcome! Have a peaceful weekend. I am praying for us all. What a great group; I am so happy I found you. <BR>

Do you have children together?

no, we don't...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU TOO!!!!<BR>money is the root of all evil everyone wants it and no one ever has enough.<BR>I still have my H's check going to the bank I just have to get my self togher enough to sit down and do the bills.<BR>he did go to the movie with the kids and me but we sat on diffrent ends of the kids and he told me he was glad we could be friends, I never knew how much I could hate that word I feel like shaking the S*** out of him and saying look at me you A**head,its my birthday I'm falling apart, I want you as a husband and a friend not just a friend but that wouldnt do any good.<BR>I would just ask him to either take half the bills off your hands or put half the money in them. <BR>Your H seems to be "HIDEING" like mine is..."I can stay over at a friends house not have to look at my kids or hear them call for me and just as long as I ignore it all will be good in my world" wrong they will have to deal with what they have done too us and our families sometime.(jurks)yes I am starting to get a little mad I know I know about time huh. well I got to go <BR>helpme

HEY ANGELA WHERE ARE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR> molly and I are getting worried the men in the little white coats took you away for skippin in the office!!!!<BR>just let us know you are ok<BR>LMS<P>------------------<BR>maybe someday

Hey there! No, I have outwitted those white coated fellows for the time being. it is the fellows in the dark suits (MY BOSS) that I am trying to stay ahead of right now. I plan on catching up with everyone tomorrow afternoon/evening. It is SO great to be missed though - it really is! THANKS! <P>Hope everyone is well. Until tomorrow.<P>Angela C

And I HAVE been skipping in the office, regardless of the talk it generates! HA!