I am a man married for 17 years with a woman I love; we have 4 children, but our sexual life has never been fantastic, because she says she doesn't like sex.<P>Now, she has a total sexual aversion and I can't even touch her, which is making me feel terrible.<P>She wants to live with me, can't even consider that we divorce, doesn't want me to have anyone else and says that I am the best husband she could have.<P>We have been to a counselor who says there is really a problem with her, but she refuses to do anything to overcome the problem, except waiting that she says will make it.<P>We have a great time together talking, we work together, the children are great, is like a perfect family, but simply she wants to leave without sex or even affection (giving or receiving)<P>I am at a point that if the situation goes on for much longer, I will have an affair or leave home, any of which will leave her in really bad shape.<P>Does anyone have any suggestion on what to do?<P>Thanks

You need to find out why she isn't into sex. Is it because it's too painful for her, or whatever the case maybe. If she loves you and wants to spend her life with you happily, she needs to take care of business or risk affairs and her unhappiness. Male or female, no one enjoys going to a doctor and talking about very private matters. good luck to you both<BR>chance

I sure can relate. I look forward to any answers that can be offered. I think the fact that on affection is offered is very significant.

I cant find out reasons my husband is that way too. He too, won't go to Drs or counselors. But he doesn't like sex and will NOT say why.