One year ago this month my ex would come home every day and was the biggest grump ever. I did not know until Nov. 10th that whole month of October he was planning with OW on how he would leave me. So many emotions have run thru me that I do not know how to tell you all that life does get better without them. I do agree with most of the info on this web sight except for them not agreeing with co-dependency. I have a different view point. I agree that part of the problems in my marriage were my fault, however it was never my fault that my Ex left me for OW. <P>Tons have happened this last year. I am so proud of myself and all of my accomplishments. I am looking at dating now. I have a wonderful man knocking on the door. Will I answer??? Probably.<P>You will all make it. I do believe in plan A and plan B because in plan b you lose the love you had for your spouse(this is a key eliment when you want to move on). I think of my ex and laugh. He was and is soooo immature. Yes, I have to talk to him at times over business transactions because he is not a least bit responsible and there is no twinge in the heart-even when the OW-his present wife answers the phone and I have to tell her first what the call is regarding (does she not trust him??? Why???)there is no anger (maybe a wee bit) but no pain. <P>I never thought I would care so much more for myelf than my ex-but I do. I have blossomed into a beautiful independent woman thanks to him leaving me....I think he actually helped my life out.....<P>I hope you all the best and you will make it!!!!You deserve to be treated better and whats wrong for asking that??? <P>Keep your chins up and know you will turn out to be the better person!!!<P>God Bless....Lady Dove<p>[ October 15, 2001: Message edited by: White Dove ]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by White Dove:<BR><STRONG> I have a different view point. I agree that part of the problems in my marriage were my fault, however it was never my fault that my Ex left me for OW. <BR></STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Lady Dove,<BR>No one disputing you not even MB. H choice to strayed not yours, same with my W.<BR>I am happy to hear good news from people that had "been here and done that" and finding happier life that we all deserve.<P>Thanks for your posting ...

Hi Lady White Dove!<P>You sound about like me. I, too feel that life is only getting better and better. While it wasn't what I wanted or thought would happen, there is a silver lining to my H's selfishness.<P>Keep the faith and God bless your future.<P>Aloha,<BR>Ms.O