Get this one.<P>This last weekend I'm off from having kid. So saterday evening I'm relaxing... Go get a few movies, a 6pack, I just want to chill out for the evening. The phone rings and its my 9YoD saying she missed me, wanted to see me, yada,yada. I look right through it and ask if she is bored. She jumps out and says NO,,,,,,Wellllll Yes. Bigtime. I kind of giggle as she now knows she's busted.. I say sure if mommy brings you over. Cool, I'll call you back after I talk to mommy. ITs cool with mommy and she'll bring me by in 30 minutes or so.<P>So the VSTBX comes into the house. (Hasn't done that in 6+ months. Right off thebat she starts riffling through the mail. I ask her what she is looking for and she said something from the Dr.'s office. I explained to her in a very calm voice that if anything came in the mail for you I would have put it in a stack right over here by the phone. <P>Her eyes roll back in her head, her neck tightens up, her fist clinch up, and I start to honker down for the nasty comeback statement. After she got done with her tieraid I asked my D to go out and check the mail. She does and low & behold there the letters are. The X picks them up kisses the kid and leaves.<P>Why am I sharing this with you????<BR>Because I CAN"T WAIT FOR THIS THING TO BE OVER!!! That attitude is the exactly one of the reasons why I filed last year. <P>Mean, hateful, negative. <P>Another thing, I went to the doctor for an ear infection (its getting better, thanks) they notice an irregular heart beat. Put me on a EKG and everything. Sure enough they find one.. No big problem right now. <P>When I tell the VSTBX, its like so what I may lose my job. I just stood there dumbfounded. I could fo V-fib right in front of her and my D and she doesn't give a C#$p. <P>Man it feels good to blow off some steam every now and then..<P>Tex..

I hear ya, Good Man! While I am very lucky...VERY LUCKY...not to have bad run-ins with my STBXH, I too am looking forward to getting it all over and done with. <P>I've spent all year closing that chapter...emotionally, mentally, physically, and in every way (got all his stuff out of the house, took all his pictures and any marriage stuff down, etc.). I'm even finding myself somewhat interested in the opposite sex again, but will probably freak if someone asks me out.<P>I have asked and asked my H to file the papers. I told him he has until the end of October to do so; otherwise, I will. We are supposed to get together this week to go over them together. We'll see what happens. <P>He blew a gasket a few months ago, when I said I was going to go to a lawyer and file the papers. Again, just another example of him always having to be in control. Let's see tho....he's waited two years...and it's only at my insistance that he's even addressing the issue now.<P>Anyway, I can relate. My H is civil and for the most part, friendly. I'm just ready for it all to be over.<P>Have a great day.<BR>Aloha,<BR>Ms.O

Could the heartbeat thing have been stress related? The divorce? Work? Something like that?<P>I know I lasted as long as I could before my divorce. I was in the dr's office one day with this acute, recurring pain in my solar plexus area and tightness in my upper chest. And he figured it might be stress. And, after hearing that, it seemed to get better and I could recognize when I needed to punt on something that was bothering me.<P>Then, the straw that broke the camel's back was when I was watching television or doing something equally strenuous and my heart would start pounding or racing. This drove me straight to the dr's office. When your heart rate climbs to 112 when your resting, it's time to find out what the deal is. Dr. didn't find anything and decided it was stress. <P>At that time I decided to file. It took being on the verge of tachycardia for me to decide to throw in the towel.<P>So, handsome Tex, how is your life?

PS I had the heart thing too...in October 2000. Went to the ER with three episodes of chest tightness and almost fainting....just out of the blue. Was hooked up to every machine imaginable and stayed in for observation overnight. <P>The doctor chalked it all up to stress. It was kinda scary, but was a major factor in helping me decide to move on too. <P>I've done alot of stress-reducing things since then and the chest tightness hasn't returned. I feel pretty good now.<P>Good luck.<BR>Aloha,<BR>Ms.O<p>[ October 15, 2001: Message edited by: Ms.O ]

Hey Texas,<BR>Well this divorce has been along time coming for you. I'm sure you can't wait to get it all over with. I know I couldn't have just been seperated from my ex as long as you have. He would have driven me crazy. Hell he still does but I don't have to put up with his crap anymore!!!<P>Now I just have to put up with my new boyfriends ex's crap. God I'm already tired of saying EX!!!!! <P>Glad you stood up for yourself. You need to do what I do just laugh at her when she starts throwing her fits and wave goodbye. <P>Jill

Being a nurse a irregular heartbeat isn't unusual but just be careful. If you ever have any pain in the arm, chest, neck or jaw that doesn't go away in a few minutes call a ambulance!! Also if you ever have a suspected heart attack take a plain aspirin do not swallow it chew it. <P>Jill

I was diagnosed about 2 yearsago with something called Prinzmillers Angina (Sp?) Got it under control w/ the Meds. So they did this EKG thing and the doc showed it to me . dit....dit....dit.dit....dit. Hesaid something about PCA and its benign what ever the he!! that means. anyway. <P>I've been dating.. Its cool, Both of us have been seperated for about 1.5+ yrs. We are just Gooooood Buddies... She's cool. <P>I don't know. I know now, after this long a time, I should have done this a long time ago. The meanness that comes out of that womans body.. She doesn't even have to say anything. just her body lang. says its coming.. Heck, When she walks into the room my dog 100+Lbs, leave the area. If she starts getting tense the dog leaves were ever he is in the house and goes into his 4' kennel in the corner. But you put her in the public or at a party and with 100 people around her having fun, she would be the loniest(sp?) in the city.. She's bright, Good looking, talks intelligently and with manners to other people... Man... I can't even bring myself to hardly even think I was ever married to that person. (That person) Heck, I'm already speaking of her in the 3rd person.. WOW.<P>WOW.<BR>How far we,ve come..<P>I'm some much a different person know than I was 2 or even 12 years ago. This girl I'm seeing says she couldn't imagine me being at a party and not just jumping into the fray. Sex for hours, walks, talks, I'm glad to take my kid when ever, were ever, or forever. Calm, Maybe a bit stressed out from the potential for being laid off but otherwise handling it pretty weeeeeeelllll.. Doc said lay off the cafine. Hunting season's apon us, Bills are payed, D is doing great in school,.. From were I'm setting life is pretty good. My lady friend said the other day that I was a rare one. I asked "Rare"? She said "You're a normal guy, a very rare find". I took that as a compliment. <P>Anyway. I'm droning.<P>Later all. <BR>Good Bless Texas.<P>Tex.