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Again I am awake in the middle of the night.<P>Again he wakes me up from a sound sleep fondling me and whispering in my ear.<P>I have asked him "please honey I have to get up at 4:30 to take son to work. I can't do this in the middle of the night. On weekends it is fine. But PLEASE!!! not during the week.<P>He says "I'm sorry, I'll never do it again"<P>Well twice tonight, the first time he said sorry I'll just snuggle up and let you go back to sleep. Second time I wake up and say ok hun, this is the second time, what is it you want. "he says sorry you scooted over by me and I thought you wanted it."<P>GRRRRRRRRRRRR so now I am awake and feeling like it doesn't matter what I say.<P>-Kat-<P>so freakin down, can't get up, can't get sleep, everything is being erroded away
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BTW,<BR>My H does this sort of thing, too.<P>I told him very nicely that I need my sleep, and that if he woke me up, I would sleep in another room. And then I did.<P>Each night he woke me up, I went to another room. It only took a few nights for him to leave me alone. He would rather I slept with him than to sleep alone.<P>Anne
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Anne,<BR>I love the idea but my boys say I can't sleep in thier room. Besides I am not sure what is living in there with them. EEK what a mess.<P>We live in a 12 x 60 mobile home. Only two bedrooms.<P>I do get up, and sometimes sleep on the couch. I have tried to make a deal with him.<P>Fine honey, if you want to wake me up for sex, you know I love it when you wake me by whispering in my ear.But then you are going to have to get up early to take son to work.<P>His response, "Oh HELL no!! I am not getting up at 4:30 in the morning and starting my day then"<P>Still wakes me up for sex.<P>-Kat-
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Kat,<P>Then set a time limit. Get up every time - DON'T SAY ANYTHING (remember you warned him fairly when you set the boundary), and sleep on the couch. THEN, if it continues you tell him - that since you need sleep, and he hasn't listened to that request, that you will have to move permanently to the couch if this continues.<P>But, you have to be prepared to follow through....<P>Anne
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