Hi all<P>Please wish me luck and strength as tomorrow I have to go to court to get the divorce finalised.<P>It is the first day of the rest of my life and I'm not too sure if I am relieved, glad its over, or just plain sad for the loss of the love of my life.<P>Any ideas what everyone, who has been there, did on the night the divorce was final?<P>Pantha

Hello,<BR>so sorry for you'll be tomorrow where I was on July 4th.<BR>It's so painful.<P>What about the night before? In fact nothing.<BR>I slept very little, I took a shower, spent a lot of time choosing what to dress, what to do with hair, what make up to choose....I tried to look as well as I could.<P>Then I went to the office, drank coffee and slowly walked to the court. I was afraid of driving a car so nervous, sad, ...<P>The whole circus lasted 20 minutes, about a minute per year of the marriage.<P>And you wouldn't believe after signing documents H (WS) took me to the dinner, very expensive one (like he always do when makes a good business!-and for him that was the contract of the century he made).<BR>We were very friendly and polite to each other (of course I vomitted soon after the lunch-pitty for this delicious meal).<P>And that was all. The Earth didn't blow up, I survived, he is happy (he claims).<P>I look cool now but that is in fact cause I live with a hope he'll be back and give us a chance, my 11 yrs D is sure for that but my 19yrs D who lives with him and OW thinks just opposite. Who is right?<P>Only future will show!<P>Wish you to collect every strength you have, "put" a smile on your face and - SURVIVE, YOU'RE THE WINNER!<P>Love <P>D

Pantha - May God bless you with strength, wisdom and love and beauty in your time of crisis. I hope you recieve all that you're hoping for. <P>betrayed and desperate - I hope you recieve what you are praying for. I admire your strength; it seems to me it comes at a very high price.<P> Dan

Sorry,<BR>I realised that I forgot to ask you to let us know how the process passed, how do you feel after that!<P>Please, we are here to help you go thrugh this1<P>love <BR>D<P><BR>BTW Family man<P>I am not strong at all, only today is one of my better days. In fact I am not really aware that I am divorced. I call my exH always "H", I still think of him first when I need any kind of help, and HE still helps me quite often (what doesn't make things easier, just opposite). He is now living a whole year with OW and with no signs of fog lifting. I don't know why I sill have hope for us, simply don't know, when everyone arround us (except my YD) think different. <BR>But that hope makes me alive. I love him still too much.<P>thanks for prayers.<P>D

(((((((((((((((((Pantha))))))))))))))))<P>Sending love and much light for you tomorrow.<P>I was thinking about your night...do you have someone who can stay with you after it is over, get out the wine and chocolate, and watch a good video? It would be best for you if you were not alone...if I were still there I would have come to hold your hand.<P>I wish the best for you.<P>Love, Jacky

Thank you all!!<P>I will let u guys know how it went.<P>betrayed and desperate - I wanted to actually spend the afternoon with H, I was the one that offered, but now he is not even going to be there. So I won't even see him, but I am spending the evening with a new guy friend, nothing serious.( and I will be careful!)

I know it will be tough for you! I don't even want to think about that day for me, but it will be here all to soon. It is the beginning of something beautiful I am sure. Time is all that will help. Keep yourself busy and lean to God for support. He will never leave you! I will say a prayer for you today and tomorrow!