Hi, I came across this tonight, thought it might be of interest to some here.<P>Love and light, Jacky<BR> <A HREF="http://www.divorcemagazine.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.divorcemagazine.com/</A>

thanks Nina,<BR>Marked to favorites.<P>-Kat-<P>Did I see that you lived in MI?

No Kat,<P>I am an Australian...I was in South Africa when this all began, supporting H in his job.<P>Love and light, Jacky

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Nina too:<BR><STRONG>Hi, I came across this tonight, thought it might be of interest to some here.<P>Love and light, Jacky<BR> <A HREF="http://www.divorcemagazine.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.divorcemagazine.com/</A></STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Thanks for the link. Did you see the poll? I thought it was interesting, the 2 biggest causes of Divorce <BR>1. infidelity 2. communication<P>Now I wonder what our WS would mark, I am not a gambling person, but I bet my STBX would put communication, while I marked infidelity. I would agree with him that lack of communication along with other issues led to his infidelity, it was his being unable or unwillingness to end his <B>A</B> that has resulted in our divorcing.<P>Also found theis quote today, I need to plaster it everywhere in my house & car<P><I>When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so<BR>long at the closed door that we do not see the one, which has opened<BR>for us.<BR>- Helen Keller</I><P>may put this in signature<p>[ October 18, 2001: Message edited by: sing ]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by sing:<BR><STRONG>I would agree with him that lack of communication along with other issues led to his infidelity[ October 18, 2001: Message edited by: sing ]</STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I went over and visited that site too - it didn't overwhelm me... but I also voted for communication because his lack of it is what led to his wandering.<P>I've also decided -today, in fact!- that he wasn't unhappy for so long - he was just having his cake and eating it too. And then someone "special enough" came along and THAT's when he had to RUN, not walk, away.<P>I've come up with an even better voodoo wish for him: I hope he develops heart disease so he can't use viagra. Now, not enough to kill him, mind you. If he's gotta die, please let him go now while on business - before the divorce! He's worth a lot more dead than alive!!<P>My evil twin must be visiting and taking over again...!

Oh BillBailey....<P>How I remember those feelings of wanting him to die while away on business... you're correct..worth more dead than alive....<BR>I thought it would have been easier to get over all of this.....<P>I once told a friend of mine...The first thing I would have done was go to my children and told them their dad was coming back home.... he realised he had made a mistake etc...blah...blah..blah..THEN... I'll be the grieving widow on a cruise ship, in a black strapless gown, black hat and BIG DIAMOND EARRINGS (he would have wanted it this way [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img])Of course I would have had to bring a few friends with me... ya know... to help me greive.... then I would have sent him dead to his Wh**e and said "here, you wanted him stiff, ya got him"...lol<P>A girl can dream.... can't she????<P>Scoick