Hi all,<P>Well I sent H my Plan B letter, written along similar lines to those suggested in the forums. I feel pretty good about it actually. It is a let go type letter and it lets him know I am fully aware of his A with OW, since the accidental call last week.<P>I liked doing it...I did it in the best MB way, but the basic thing behind that letter, for me, is that I'm letting him know that I am not going to be a doormat, and I do not approve of his A. I stuck up for myself.<P><BR>Hooray for me.<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

OK, so now you focus on figuring out a way to provide for yourself and your kids the best opportunities, given the situation.<P>BTW, since one can't read accents, i would swear that from some of the sentences you have posted, you were almost american, <P>i sometimes crack up laughing knowing that you are australian from some of the "normal" comments you make, that i would make just as easily.<P>take care Jacky,<P>its an interesting journey, and you just started on it.<P>tom

Thanks WIFTTy,<P>I am doing the best i can for the kids and I right now...looks like I will have my own (rented) house soon and I have enough money to get me by. H is honouring his money commitment and with welfare payments, I am going to be okay.<P>i want to move onward and upward...just leave all this stuff behind me.<P>What are the sentences that strike you as American? Fair dinkum, mate, I've got no bloody idea!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky<P>(PS WIFTTy, thanks for the funny emails! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] )

Nina,<P>I am glad that you did this for you. And I am also glad that you are at a place that it felt good to stand up for yourself.<P>I am sure after reading your posts that you did it calmly and without LBing.<P>Congradulations.<P>{{{{{{{Nina}}}}}}}}}<BR>We are here for you<P>-Kat-

All i can say Jackie is you have come along way in a short time, keep moving you are doing fine. Take care of yourself.

you go girl... you are well on your way to peace and tranquility.<P>keep you head to the sky...<P>kim... [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Thank you everyone...<P>It has been nearly a day since I sent the letter and I still feel a sense of peace with this...ther is no remorse or regret for taking this step. In fact, I am feeling happy about saying enough is enough...is this normal???

I think it very normal to protect yourself and take care of yourself, you have nothing to feel remorse or regret from what I have read Jackie, you have done everything you possibly could, it is up to him now and no matter what he chooses you will still be fine you made it this far, and you know that you could never go back to what it was now, so it is up to him to make the changes now.

Nina -<P>Somehow I missed this post earlier. I must say that you sound at peace. Hang in there and take care of yourself and those kids. I am considering Plan B myself. This crazy fog they're in is so difficult. We must protect ourselves. <P>Hang in there, you're doing great!<P>K

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Nina too:<BR>Hooray for me.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Three cheers for you, indeed. You sound healthier and more together every day. I think the roller coaster ride will continue for a while, but the dips won't be a huge. <P>How was the first plan B weekend?

Thanks for replying jabber, SR and train,<P>The weekend was fine. I took the kids to McDonalds for breakfast on Saturday, then we went bowling, and on Sunday we went to McDonalds for LUNCH...and then to the park. I took a book and read under the shade of a beautiful tree while they played.<P>Yesterday was fine too, except I went to the dr and he UPPED my meds...he is very expert on them and seems to think they aren't quite doing the job.<P>Today started off fine...I helped at kindergarten for the morning...but then got home and had a reply from H. I didn't expect one.<P>Basically he said he knew I had to go through a lot of hurdles, he wants some of our furniture, he really misses the kids and it is killing him (but not enough to want to come back to us)....and for me to get a life. He also said he wanted to help in our son's therapy...HA! He put the poor kid into it in the first place.<P>So deep in his stupid fog...he doesn't care one jot about me. He even signed the damn thing, Regards, (H) REGARDS!!! What am I, a business associate. It sucks.<P>So it hurt me, but at least I know he knows where he stands with me...and I know where I stand with him.<P>Thanks for the support, I need a few hugs today.<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky