I have been in the middle of a very nasty divorce. H. has done things like cutting cable wire on house, sending magazine subscriptions in my name, getting bogus personal pertection orders against me, not paying child support by telling employer he was paying on his own....you name it. He cleaned everything out of the house prior to leaving short of taking the broken furniture he left us. He buried money also (large sums)(he is a physician). He has been having an affair for about the last 3 years. <P>The question is: My attorney bills are extremely high (he has fought every ruling) the children and I want this over with. The stress of all his games is no longer something I want to deal with. Do I approach him with what I will take in the way of property settlement? He currently has another bogus PPO against me. What kinds of things do you ask for in settlement.<P>He makes comments to the children your mother just wants to drive up the bills by using attorneys, but he has but anything but honest.<P>thanks,<BR>Lght [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

lght<BR>My H is a physician too. His partner got a D and did much of the same stuff. She had the best Attorney in town, he had the next best. She got MORE than what she asked for by sitting tight, doing the right thing, and letting him screw himself. He even turned down HIS own settelment aggrement!<P>You are in the right place though. Read, read, read, everything on this sight. The articals at the top are worth it, the "Most notable threads" will help you. Stay here and grow. You will be the "better person" for it. Good luck!

lght<BR>My husbands partner says to his kids," I can't afford to by you anything because your mother has all my money". What a jerk, what a lie. I'm proud to say that when he took his x back to court for reduced child support, I gave her the information of what he brings home. This gave his Attorny the heads up to ask for records. He LOST and had to pay an extra 10 grand in court costs. <BR>He's really great at his job but NO noe has any respect for him personally.

Thanks for the input. He got a bogus PPO against me now...I haven't been anywhere near him, don't answer the phone if he calls.. usually. He called after my asking what he wants in the way of settlement-he refused to put anything in writing- said we could discuss it item by item. I don't even want to be in the same place as him- right now he makes my skin crawl. <P>Lght