Its been a while since I have been on here,but to upadate anyone who remembers me and what has been going on, well we went to court and I received temp. custody 4 days a week and my wife gets her 3 days. We went to mediation and worked out perm. custody and holidays and it actually stayed the same, and my wife did move back to the state about 5 miles from our house, butnow comes the PAIN, see is now dating per her atty. and only had one date with him 2 weeks ago and stay overnight with him this past Monday and again on Wednesday and call our daughter from his house and again Thursday morning. We are not even legally separated, she wanted me to keep her on my insurance so she can get conseling, but this she left June 19th and haven't been yet. How do I keep this pain from going into rage and does the LOVE MUST BE TOUGH theory works? I'm in alot of pain and she is just rubbing it in my face, I told her I am filing new charges for adultly on Friday. It seem it didn't bother her, but she did get sick on Tues. when I conforted her about her sleep over MON., but maybe not enough she did it again WED. I'm lost, hurt, numb, so many emotions I'm going though. Any thoughts?

Hey man,<p>Focus on your kid(s). Remember that they are part of the divorce too and don't let them slip through the cracks.<p>You are playing into her hands. Filing more charges will only show that she can push your buttons. File charges only if it will help yourself. She's looking for any way to make you look bad to alleviate her guilt. Read through the most recent thread from Hi Infidelity and you will see what I mean.<p>If you want to absolutely shock her, turn off, completely. I strongly believe in the Love Must Be Tough theory. Let her go. She's not your problem anymore. Some people just have to learn the hard way. You are actually slowing down her learning process. Let her fall.<p>Remember. You only have a few people to worry about anymore; your kid(s) and you. She's not your problem anymore.<p>The more I ignore my WS XW the better things seem to be getting. She's now behaving better and seems to be interested in who I'm with.<p>The only way to win the game is to STOP PLAYING.<p>Kevin

You are divorcing and she is free to move on if that is what she chooses, I know it sucks and hurts like hell when this happens, but take care of yourself and the kids, filing more charges is only going to make it more painful and I doubt there will be anymore benifit to you than what you have already agreed to. The kids are the ones who will suffer in the long run over any battles so think about them and yourself, trust me she will get hers in the long run.