Well STBXH stopped by my house on the 9th of Oct and hand delievered the divorce papers. He said he wanted to serve me himself because he didn't want the sherriff to serve me, but if I didn't sign them right now, he would have to do that.<p>I looked at him like he was crazy and stated that I had to have my attorney look at them. He says to me, you have an attorney. I tell him yes and would he like her card. So of course he says, What does she know about me. I just looked at him and told him I had to leave.<p>Went and saw the attorney the next day and she looked over the papers and asked me where the paper that stated WHY he wanted a divorce was. (I can't remember what she called it). I told her that is all he gave me, plus a hand written note. <p>She told me she would look over the papers he gave me, but until we got that paper we really couldn't go any farther. <p>The hand written note that he gave me stated to that he wanted me to sign papers ASAP so he can get this over with ASAP. That he didn't want to have the sherriff serve me as it would cost (MONEY). He also stated that the house will be all right for a few more years (the house is falling apart as I sit here) and that he will help me with repairs as long as we are getting along.<p>He also stated in this note that if we get into a pissing match (as he called it) over this divore, thar it would only hurt the kids (FINANCIALLY). <p>Now maybe I was just upset, but I took that as a threat. I gave the paper to my attorney. I wonder if she will see it that way. <p>And since the day he served me he has not given my one penny of his money. He is still paying all the bills though (so I really can't complaine) but we did have a verbal agreement that he would give me money until the divorce way final.<p>In the papers that he gave me his attorney thinks I make like $2000.00 a month. I about fell out of the chair. I drive a school bus.. HELLOOOOOOOO! I barely bring home $700.00<p>And what I hate most is one day I am mad as hell, and the next day I am just so LOW!!!... It is driving me crazy! Everyone tells me it will get better, but boy - I never in a million years thought I would be going through something like this.<p>The stress is taking its toll on my body as well. But I keep telling myself that I will survive this. I have 3 children and myself to think of now. Let him be in his fog!!!<p>VENTING AGAIN! Thanks for listening!<p>Beth

Beth,<p>Well, nobody posted on your thread, so I just thought I'd let you know that somebody read it.<p>We have a lady friend that used to drive a school bus too. Very nice lady, so I assume you are too.<p>-AD

Let the lawyer do the financial stuff and you keep taking care of yourself, your feelings are normal. he on the other hand is in the same fog as all the rest of the WS. You will be fine in the long run, we are here for you

I agree, let your attorney handle it, BUT make sure your attorney is aware of the descrepencies in the wages.<p>To tell you that he will help with the house as long as you two are getting along, is a type of emotional threat. AS IN don't say anything I don't like or you are on your own. I don't think I would be real excited about that.<p>Smart woman that you hired an attorney. Don't let him push your buttons.<p>-Kat-

Please,
you are so much like me (see the data in signature) but be smarter than me.
Do not allow him to leave you without enough money-like I did hoping that if I do not make him angry he would be back. Of course opposite happened: HE has money, house, OW, no obligations at all.
I love him still, have hope for us still, but if borne second time never would do and signe things I did. And you know I think he woud respect me more.
Be careful.
Wish you luck
D

Hello, Your husband sounds so much like mine. He keeps threatening so much **** about money, and threatening not to give me what I need... or else... if I am good I get more money... if I cause trouble or argue or state how I feel, or get a lawyer... less money for me... and by the way... I do not get seperate maitenance... he has several resons he thinks he does not have to support us right now... I can't believe it ... Just curious - do you live in magnolia texas, boy I would love to meet you if you do... I am in cypress.. but let me know... thanks, honey

Thanks all for your advice. He is so into himself at the moment. The sad part about all of this is that he has treated our OS like crap most of his young life (16 1/2 yrs) and once he served me the papers, he calls him everyday and then proceeds to tell him he doesn't come around because he doesn't want to fight with me. (Oh give me a break) <p>We are NOT TALKING at all right now. The last thing I said to him was that if he needed to talk to me about the DIVORCE he had to talk to my attorney. I guess that meant that he doesn't have to talk about the kids, bills, if I need money etc. We see him driving on the road, and he will not acknowledge us. It really is sad. I guess he is really just po's with me, and the kids are suffering in the process.<p>He still won't tell us where he really lives. He says his parents, but that is so BS. We think he lives up at the lake. <p>He told my 9 yr old D that she had to call him everyday. She asked me if she had to. I told her to call him when she wants to. <p>My MS (15) is so depressed that he talked with his school sounslor about suiside. Now I have him seeing a therapist and he is on anti-depressants. <p>He will ask the oldest how things are going, and if everything is ok at the house. Ok, I have a 16 yr old who has a job, a car and lots of friends. When is a teenager home long enough to know about the bills, food, etc. <p>Anyway - I am venting -- I live in Georgia! But I do have a sister in Texas who I plan to visit someday. She would like me to move there! <p>And yes, I am not going to sign anything, or do anything until I FEEL its what is best for my 3 kids and me! I just get scared of the thought of going through all this crap!<p>Until later,
Beth