Me and my soon to be ex were seperated for a good yr due to an affair that she had and the way she lived life(not the good way). so I got temp custody of the boy. then she attempted to kill her self. So we talked after that happened for 3-4 months. I wasn't for sure if it was over because I still felt something inside. I cared about her but I didn't know if I still loved her. she said that she loved me but, I wasn't for sure of my feelings for her. anyway we tried it one last time and it lasted about two - three weeks then she wanted to move back to her old place she said she loved me but, wasn't in love with me. I thought that was a cop out. so now were still getting a divorce and all the old issues were thrown out of court and we have to refile for divorce. for about a month she wanted to get counsoling but, I was angry with her because I feel she just did it to get the old stuff thrown out of court. so know the future is a big ? any recommendations thanks.

Dean,<p>I'm sorry that nobody replied to you before now.<p>You have a lot of different issues and I don't know if I can address all of them.<p>I have to make some assumptions - to fill in the gaps in your brief account of your situation.<p>First, it seems to me that you still have a lot of anger or resentment toward her - possibly linked to the affair.<p>Also, I assume that you were the one to file for divorce the first time.<p>Third, I assume that her affair is finished. What happened to end it? Did she walk away from it in an effort to come back to you?<p>How did she try to kill herself? What happened? How do you feel about that? Do you think she will try again?<p>How old is your son? Has you W been an active mother during the separation? Did she visit often?<p>Has her way of life changed?<p>How did you guys meet? Did she live this lifestyle then or develop it after you married?<p>It's not clear from your post what your goals are. Do you want to save the marriage? Are you trying to keep custody of your child and get a divorce?<p>Read the information on this site - about emotional needs, love busters, love bank, infidelity etc. It can really help.<p>Please fill us in on more details so that we can try to help you. There are people here who have been through what you are going through.<p>-AD

Take sometime and just work on yourself, if you are not in a hurry don't worry about the D. don't push things, just step back and work on improving yourself and taking an honest look at your part in things and the person you want to become. Take life one day at a time for now and see were it leads you