My W and I are emotionally separated at the advice of our counsellor. I refused to physically seperate as I do not want to be away from my 3 kids and home.<p>We have been the perfect couple and family until one day after 12 years of marriage, my W could put up with my temper no longer and my workaholism. <p>She always talked about it and we have had a wonderful time, but I never really understood how much my ways hurt her. She is a peacemaker by nature and always put up with it. I got used to it and knew I could always get away with it so subconciously, I never changed.<p>She wants some time to herself and doesnt know if the relationship has any future. I love her more than life. <p>I constantly plead with her to start again. Start a new day. She says that is what she has done for years. She is affraid of me blowing up. (don't worry, no physical violence). <p>I just was so blind. I could not see. Anyway, I can't help but plead with her. I know this is a step in wrong direction. People here have helped me before. Please give me any advice and encouragement. I need it constantly. Thanks.

This sounds just the way i feeled when we agreed to be seperated. Then I chose to see someone so my H feels as though I cheated on him, b/c we agreed that if one or the other had a problem w/ it we would stop. That was not the answer. I know that I needed time. I realized how important my H was. I think now it may be too late for me. Give her time sir. Show her what you mean. Its better to see then to tell. If she is not responsive at first please be patient. Time will only tell. Thats my problem now I want to know if there is a possibility left. I pray everyday there is. Be strong and if you have any q's feel free to ask.

boy I must be tired at 3 a.m......felt not feeled....haha....lmao