To all my friends here,<P>I recently discovered a great book which describes one woman's journey from the brink of divorce back to having a better and more fulfilling relationship in her marriage than she had ever dreamed of.<P>The parallels to my life are tremendous (even her husband's name is the same!), and many of the chapter titles are exactly the things my wife has said to me. This is a Christian book which offers real, practical advice on how divorce was not the best answer for her despite how she felt about her marriage at the time. Although it was written by a woman for other women, I know from the male perspective I have enjoyed it thoroughly and gotten a lot out of it. Unfortunately I believe it's too late to influence my wife's decision, but I just wanted to share this with others in the hope that it may be of benefit to them. <P>When Love Dies : How to Save a Hopeless Marriage by Judy Bodmer<BR>ISBN # 0849937140<P>You can read the reviews of it from the Amazon.com web site.<P> <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0849937140" TARGET=_blank>http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0849937140</A> <P><BR>I do not know the author personally or have any financial interest in the publisher or amazon.com<P> <P><BR>------------------<BR>Prayer doesn't change things for you - it changes you for things.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Stardust (edited September 03, 1999).]

Dear stardust,<BR> Can you help me out with some quick advice that you can relate to my problem? My husband wants to separate due to his sad feelings for what he did. I feel it partially has to do with the fact that he's more religious than I could ever be and I'm the one who held up my end of the marriage. We have had prior problems and need to work on those more so than the infidelity issue which really seems to eat him up. <BR> I have a topic posted here, that may help. I'm gonna try the book, but anything that you think would help would be great!!<P>Thanks <BR>Allison

there is a book that i have read about 4 times in the past week and a half called the relationship toolbox by robert abel. go buy the book and read it to each other ite wonderful. i had an affair for over a year and a half and my wife and the OW got together and the only thing good that came of that is the affair is now over. now im trying to rebuild the marriage. please read the book you will love it