Hello all,<BR> Was posting on infidelity board for awhile. I am now divorced as of the 15th of Aug.. I did not want the divorce, but we had so many problems and could not resolve them. Last week I ran into my ex at work, was wishing he would turn around in his car and come talk to me. I still love him. Well he did turn around and we talked for a few minutes and I could see in his eyes he still loved me. We still have a connection. I have always had a thought in my mind, but would not say anything then out of nowhere he would say aloud what I was thinking. We started talking again and went out. We have married twice and divorced twice. The second time we both agreed to get counseling so things would not get bad again. Things were so good as usual in the beginning, we never went. Then after it got out of hand again, I mentioned going and he refused.<P>He mentioned that he has been missing me more than he wanted to and that seeing me sometimes makes it harder. One of the issues he needs to resolve is anger control. (never physically abused, only mental) He says he hates missing me because neither of us has resolved any of our problems and therfore we cant get back together. He still has not agreed to get counseling with me or alone and he does not know how to fix the problems. Do any of you have suggestions?? I dont want to make things harder on him, and I want us back together, only if we can get some resolution. We both need to learn to be happy being alone. I have done pretty good at it being I work 2 jobs and have 2 teens to get on my nerves here. Have some down moments, but I snap out of it. So when I say I want us back together, it's because I love and want to be with him, not because I cant stand to be alone. He has not handled the situation as well as I. This is the first time he has not just ran out to find someone to take away his lonliness, so I am impressed! He for sure needs to get more male friends to do things with (not bar scene). I know I cant take his problems away for him and he needs to do it himself, but feel there must be something I can do to help. I just dont know what other than pray for him. Any advice appreciated.<P>Bluestar