How do you deal with someone who is a conflict avoider? After an internet affair nearly 2 years ago we're on the verge of a seperation. My wife has admitted that she suppressed her true feelings for the 18 years we've been married. This explains why her actions have frequently differed from what she said. Even now, she won't tell me how she really feels about things. And it's not just with me. When she was working she would take what ever they dumped on her rather than stand up for herself. I know she suffers from low self esteem but I believe that making your feeling and ideas secondary to everyone else's has caused that. <P>I've tried to be supportive of her thoughts and feelings (OK, perhaps I wasn't as supportive as I should have been in the earlier years), but lately she's further withdrawn and won't express how she feels to me about anything. Consequently, I don't know what I need to do to make her happy. <BR>Help! - Any suggestions?<P>------------------<BR>Prayer doesn't change things for you - it changes you for things.<P>