My fiancee and I are getting married in late October, but due to school and work, we've all but lost the passion we've had before, and our intimacy has declined, due to her being "disinterested," not in me, just in being physical. any ideas/suggestions? Thanks

Bringing it back up, somebody address this. I'm not qualified. Mike

I learned from another post that her apparent disinterest (which comes and goes now) is due to her recent use of the pill. I am also thinking that her passion for me is diminished due to her mood swings, which I also attribute to the pill, among other factors. for those ladies who have used/are using the pill, does this sound about right? We are also very spiritual, and have been under "attack" for quite a while now, and we have often said, more earlier in the engagment than recent, that the devil would love for us to break up, and will do all he can, so I'm thinking this is just one more thing he's doing. But please pray for us, her, and me (as it is getting hard for me at times). Thanks.

Mathias,<BR>Sorry for the problems you and your fiancee are going through but as you both are spirit-led Christians, you know that when you are heading for some kind of spiritual breakthrough that you will be under serious attack. Pray through it together and take authority over your lives and your relationship. Commit it to God and stand on His word and His promises to you. (Heb 4:14-16)<BR>As for the pill, I understand how your fiancee may be affected by them. I had taken them for about 8 years before I decided to have a tubal 4 years ago. The main reason I got off the pill was because of migraines and mood swings. Laughing and jolly one minute and crying the next. I had no idea when the next mood swing would hit. I have been having problems with endometriosis the last 2 years and my ob/gyn put me back on the pill about 5 months ago because he says that the hormones usually help the physical symptoms of endo. I had been taking Ortho-Novum 3.5 (best I can recall, it's been a while) and after I discussed my concerns about the headaches/mood swings with him, he suggested the lower dosage of Loestrin 1/20 which is about half the dosage of what was in the other pills. I had mood swings for the first couple of months but I don't have headaches as bad as before (years ago with the other pills) and the mood swings are not as bad although I don't want to continue taking these things forever. <BR>Perhaps your fiancee could talk to her doctor and ask him/her to lower the dosage of her pills. It would probably take a few months to get the dosage right and you might even have to use some other kind of birth control to avoid unplanned pregnancy while they experiment with the dosage. It may be worth a try. In any case, I shall be praying for you both. Please remember that while her mood swings are annoying for both of you, she truly can't help it and speaking as someone who has been there, she has probably said things to you while she feels bad that she would love to take back. I know I sure have. If it hadn't been for my husband's kindness and understanding, I don't know what I would have done. <BR>Please keep in touch. My prayers are with you.<BR>Janice

Mathias:<P>You might want to consider postponing the wedding, at least until you can resolve some of your concerns. The physical passion has apparently dropped to the point where you're concerned now, BEFORE the wedding. Well, it's not likely to suddenly get better AFTER the wedding.<P>Sorry if I sound cynical, but if this need is strong for you, far better to deal with it now, than 2 months from now, eh?