Some of you are aware that I am in my second marriage. I have learned a lot from my mistakes that I made in my first marriage and I work extremely hard at making my second marriage a success. After reading the article on making deposits into the love bank I am aware of it every day. I smile every-time my husband does something that makes me feel good and I'll think to myself "well, he just made another deposit", and if I do something for him and it's obvious that I made him very happy I'll think to myself "well, I know I made a deposit in HIS love bank". When you are aware of it you begin to realize just how often in one day you can make these deposits. Little things like him appreciating the surprise party I had for him and giving me a big hug and just saying "thanks so much for your hard work, I loved it". I was home yesterday afternoon and I knew he was having a tough day at work. I also knew that he planned on mowing the lawn when he got home so I went ahead and did it for him. He noticed as soon as he walked in the door and thanked me. It's feeling appreciated. It's little notes I get in my lunch bag telling me that he misses me and to have a good day. Those little things add up to a point where you can be rich in the bank department! When your making each other happy it makes you happy and content in your marriage. Everything else falls into place. So, keep up with the deposits, it pays off!

Thanks for the reminder! so true!

I've tried making deposits,like e-mailing him love messages,initiating sex,giving him a pedicure,massages,driving him to the doctor and tonite i made one of his favorite meals and it has been cold for 5 hours because he's no where to be found. i my as well deposited them in the trashcan.

Bonnie,<BR>Like you said it does help. Once you start and you are aware of what you are doing it makes even a bigger difference. One of the things I got my husband to read when we was separated was about the Love Deposits. I think it has made a difference in him. <BR>One of the keys difference in my marriage was that we didn't comminicate. We had stopped talking to each other. <P>The crazy things is that both of us was aware of problems in our marriage, neither happy with the way things were going or the direction we was headed.<BR>I wanted communication and affection. I thought he wanted sex. In the end, he left because I had stopped meeting his needs. But I have learned it wasn't sex. It was the same thing I wanted. He called it Itimancy, I called it affection. He wanted it private, I wanted the world to see that he cared for me.<BR>So now we are communicating and love deposits are being made on a regular basis. Because now I see what he needs and he sees what I need. I still haven't gotten the roses, or the little notes but they are coming. But I am getting what I need the most. Time with my husband, talking, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, flirting once again. Just plain old playing and enjoying each other. They make bigger deposit in the Love bank then ppl will think.<P>Gwen<BR>