Every day since my husband asked me for a divorce I keep getting more angry and at the same time more numb. More angry towards him and more numb towards our marriage. We started counseling and are now in individual counseling to fix ourselves before we tackle our marriage. But with each passing day I am getting further away from wanting to work this out. When he asked for the D I wanted to beg him not to do this - scared to be without him - wanting to save our marriage and us. Now I am starting to think more and more of just leaving him - giving him the divorce he orginally asked for. With every minute I think of all the past hurts - the current hurts - the pain that was caused because of him asking for this. I no longer trust a living soul. I live in a house with a stranger - except this stranger I'm married to. I'm no longer sure if I still want to work this out. Should I tell him about the way I'm feeling? Maybe tell him not that I'm thinking of divorce but that I'm feeling us slip even further away from each other than what we were before. I could really use some input here. Not sure what to do and next counseling isn't for 2 more days.<p>Hugs - Hope<p>married almost 15 years
2 children - 4 & 7
husband asked for D 2 1/2 weeks ago
still living together and in counseling

A lot depends on helping yourself. You all need to fix yourselves before you all can fix each other. If you really want the marriage to work you all need to still do things together. That is if both of you are willing. That is what is really helping my W and myself out. We continue to go out. No need to spend lots of money just small things. Maybe it is not for everyone, but try it see what happens.
Matt

I think what you are feeling is normal, and perhaps you should talkf to him express your feelings, I think it important to communicate, express the anger, but in a contructive way.