For my wife, I just wish she would have some reality come into her and realize what she has done to herself and her children. I don't ask her to worry about me, nor about what she has done that affects me. That all the things that she so desparately thought was all me, was just a part of her warped thinking, just like "How I held money over her head.(She admitted after pressed, never.)" and "How she has our boys so much more of the time than I do. (About 3-4 hours a week more, for over $590 extra support)."

I just wish she would see how although I was no saint, that her way of thinking only the worst about everything that I did in our lives just wasn't anywhere near the truth.

That would be the worst fate I could ever imagine for myself. Finally seeing my part in my own family's downfall and having been given so many chances, seeing my spouse change and try so hard, and seeing someone that truly loved me, finally give up.

Also, having my boys be of the appropriate age and say they wanted to live with me. They already do, but they are too young to make that decision, AT THIS TIME.

<small>[ November 04, 2002, 06:57 PM: Message edited by: Formerly Confused ]</small>

Of course there are lots of things to wish on them. BUT...I have a wish for me...

I wish I would win the lottery, just so I can wave a big pile of money in his selfish face.

I wish I just might get that date with his ex best friend from high school that he no longer speaks with, fall in love with him, marry him, and let him be a better father to my kids than my exH ever was - and then win the lottery.

(This may actually be happening, altho I'm really not trying to make it happen on purpose. We actually have connected out of the blue again...but the revenge thought is kind of a fun part, but definitely not the driving force).

Hey XMAN! I saw you sneaking around back there!
_______

I've always lived by the creed that you're never a failure in life when you fall, as long as you try and get up. - Evel Kneivel <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I hope she cries herself to sleep every nite for the rest of her pitiful life.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by weirded out:
<strong>Of course there are lots of things to wish on them. BUT...I have a wish for me...

I wish I would win the lottery, just so I can wave a big pile of money in his selfish face.

I wish I just might get that date with his ex best friend from high school that he no longer speaks with, fall in love with him, marry him, and let him be a better father to my kids than my exH ever was - and then win the lottery.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey, WeirdedOut! Don't just think that is a wishful fantasy... Didn't you see on TV last year, this dude won the Kentucky Lottery for $61 Million or some ungodly amount? I think it was the PowerBall draw, but anyway, point is, they interviewed him on NATIONAL TV when he went into pick up his check and he said he thanked God for the money. Then he looked directly in the camera and said, "My ex wife just got married today at 11am. I wish you the best with your new husband, honey." Then he waved his check in the camera and was wearing the biggest grin ever...it was a little after 11am when he did his interview. I'm not kidding, this really happened. Don't you know his ex was probably spitting nails...
So, don't give up... you just never really know how things are going to be...
Best of Luck to you, Harold <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by DJ T-Bird:
<strong> Then he looked directly in the camera and said, "My ex wife just got married today at 11am. I wish you the best with your new husband, honey." Then he waved his check in the camera and was wearing the biggest grin ever... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Now that is funny. Where's MY check?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Just kidding. I don't play the lottery, I'm not particularly vindictive (thoughts maybe, but not actions) and besides, I don't imagine my XH getting married anytime soon. Women like his mommy are hard to come by. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Most of my revenge fantasies are coming true. It looks like my XW and I are reconciling. With any luck I'll be helping her move out of the OM's place. Hell, I helped her move in!

My revenge is to build the marriage my XW and I always wanted and to be happy.

I had a lot of people on my side through all of this. I think the OM is going to be quite surprised at the lack of sympathy for him. We used to be real good friends and our mutual friends now that. So how would you like to be a married guy with him for a friend?

You know, I do think about revenge stuff .... but what is really weird is I have these thoughts/visions about the future regarding my Ex and OW. They're quite creepy and feel real ....

I forsee them in these hilacious arguments, borderline violent, with pushing and shoving ... lots of blaming and screaming. Just ugly chaotic bedlam.

Don't know, but any revenge fantasies I've had are certainly eclipsed by these visions or whatever they are.

On another note: Man oh Man! Weirded Out and X-Man on this thread. How cool is that? How are you two? Got an update for us?

Lv,
Jo

<small>[ November 05, 2002, 03:25 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>

Hmmmmmm - revenge. Let's see...

I think the ultimate revenge is my XH seeing me happy and in love with a caring (hot) man. LOL! Which - being the optimistic person I am, WILL happen someday!

As far as nitty gritty stuff goes - I have all the psycho emails showing his instability AND infidelity. I also have letters from his family members "going off" on other family members. I'd LOVE to bundle them all up and send a copy to each and every one of them. THEN........

...eventually, since I'm a writer - I'd LOVE to write a screenplay and get someone like Lifetime to eventually show the movie. My X hated TV and really hated the Lifetime channel. Always said things like "life is NOT like a Lifetime Movie."

Huh! Isn't THAT funny? Because our marriage, his family, and complete psychoness IS even BETTER than a Lifetime Movie.

Hell, I could become rich and famous! Okay, I'm back to reality now. It was fun while it lasted.

Hugs,
Llama

i haven't been around here for some time because the whole D thing going down and i could not stop it. lost alot of faith and became quite a POS myself in trying to self destruct my feelinmgs away.

how about tying them both up and pouring hot lead in their ear canals?

ok maybe i'm sicker than most but hey it's my first D.

or forgetting that my children exist just long enough to go over there and kill OM. i figure that by the time i get out of jail my children will all be old enough to understand why and be ok with it.

or just remembering that life is too short for me to be worried about any of this, and she definitely is not worth me completely losing myself in a blind fit of rage.

i'm considering writing a novel to exact my revenge on them both in an alter ego sort of way......no similarities to actual persons disclaimer and all....

or my favorite by far.....they live close to railroad tracks....death is too kind so... hypothetically i would have some chloroform and render OM limp by using a rag(anyone ever seen SUICIDE KINGS?)that could go badly.....drag him over to the tracks and make sure he never walks on those legs again...

like i said i'm pretty sick! for some reason today i am especially missing her even tho' we fought alot when we were together. i probably miss the idea of what i thought we had together rather than the actual truth of what we were together.

people tell me i'll never stop loving her....to this i say " I pledged to love her forever, it was meant to bind us, now it seems a curse that haunts my waking life."

as a side note....someone gave me a book-House of Leaves- i've read it all throughout the D and it really impacted me....good or bad i don't know yet.....but it took me way far away from all my troubles and sometimes it helped. but it's just another form of haunting.

locking them both inside the closet in the Navidson Record seems to be the only solution i can see that'd work.....but it's fiction so that can't be done....check out the novel....it's crazy!!!

Thanks Harold! You made my day!

Wouldn't that be the coolest! To have something that great like winning the lottery happen, and watching them just writhe like the snakes they are in envy.

In the really bad half of my mind, it would be fun to get all that money, then tease and flirt with the ex letting him think I wanted him back so that the OW would get a taste of her own medicine, thus sadly leaving him (wah!). OH, of course, then I'd dump him leaving him with nothing but lint in his pockets.

Did someone say "BOOYAH"!!

Hi Jo, are you really surprised that XMAN and I would show up on the REVENGE post??? What are YOU doing here? You are much nicer than we are (oh, I should speak for myself, shouldn't I, hope Xman doesn't read that).

Maybe I should start an old timer post that asks "What's your update"? I would, but I don't have anything juicy to tell! I'm so darn boring.

Take care all of you.