Well, after 22 years of marriage I discovered wife having an online affair and perhaps a PA too.After confronting her and going through Part A for 3 months I discoverd she was at it again (or still) and discovered e-mail to a lover across country she had bought a ticket to fly and see him (I was "on the road working). I went into Part B. A month later she filed for divorce. My wife has been on disability (through a private insurance company) for 2 years. A month after she filed for divorce the insurance company stopped disability payments after a doctor said she can go back to work (he had said that, unknown to me, about 3 months prior to the disability stopped its payments). <p>There doesn't seem to be a chance for us to reconcile and the divorce is dragging out and may take 2-3 more months. She has no money coming in. OUr kids are grown though one lives at home gong to collegse. We have a house payment jointly. The car she has is paid off. I have been making the housepayment myself and the electricity. She expects me to keep paying all her bills as the divorce is going on.<p>I feel hurt for her situation and want to reach out to help her. On the other hand I am bitter about her actions while married and the impending alimony I will have to pay. <p>Am I wrong not to give her any money? Does anyone have any suggetions?<p>Bgun

talk to a lawyer and make sure you document anything you pay

bgun..<p>My situation was very similar to yours because my wife's affair was a physical internet affair. D-day was 2/01 and even after discovery, she told me that she was "very sorry" and that I didn't deserve someone like her and on and on. She waited 3 more months of me paying 90 percent of the bills, I paid her car off, and a majority of her student loans during our 3 year marriage. <p>To answer your question, she is responsible for her own bills at this point! I would just let her suffer now! She really had no regard for your feelings when she was having the affair, so, she doesn't deserve any "benefits" of the marriage!<p>I wish you the best for you and your kids!<p>Take Care!<p>Bryan [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Kick her to the curb!!!<p>She's supposed to be an adult. Let her figure it out. She's not your problem anymore. She's made her choice.<p>The only way she will snap out of her stupidity is to get a strong dose of reality. Don't be mean, just disconnect.<p>You are only liable for what the courts decide. Alimony or spousal support.<p>Kevin